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Just helped dad undress for shower. He couldn’t even undo his own shoes, take his own pants, jocks, unbutton shirt off. Ran the shower and walked away. The shower stopped and 15 minutes had passed, I didn't hear much. I checked up on him. His eyes red as if he had been crying, holding towel somewhat normally... I asked if he needed a hand, his response sharp and quick, “I got soap in my eyes!”... sometimes I wish this memory ‘was forgotten , as quick as his motor skills
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Along with terminal diseases. Dementia, in my opinion is one of the saddest, more devastating things that can happen to a human being😖😢 i am so sorry about your dad. Good thing he's got You. Although i don't know you i am confident You are his silver lining. Wether he's aware of it or not😢
I pray for you to have patience, support to continue doing what you're doing. And please PLEASE take some time for yourself. Even if its minimal. The journey ahead is mega challenging for your dad and You.
Best to you ❤❤❤
ReplyThank-you for the response. I couldn’t bare take another evening without googling, “sharing thoughts anonymously”. I’ve been refreshing this page, waiting just for a response. Thank-you for making my evening, kind stranger.
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Glad I could help a tiny bit. But seriously seek as much support as you can if you havent already. It will make a huge difference in the journey ahead. My heart and prayers go to you.
Hang in there.
ReplyI hope you muster up all the patience and kindness that you can provide your father during his difficult times no matter how many he might lash out at you (maybe unknowingly). Dementia is such a hard disease to deal with and you are very brave!!
ReplyA man who served as a commando, had two boys... quit and become an engineer to provide and support his two boys and loving wife. We were both put through private schooling, had everything a kid could of ever asked for, and a father. So masculine yet so soft, kind and loving... the perfect “nuclear family”. The man at 55 things started to go wrong, his normal jovial self turned somewhat bitter.... an extravert turned inwards..... the diagnosis hit. Lucky for us, his employer allowed him to take 6 months sick leave (until the golden handshake redundancies) were announced..... even though proven “unfit for work”.... oh, he was crying tonight, it took all I had to say, “ok, shout out if you need a hand”.... had to turn away laughing and smiling.... as he would...... one step before I started crying.
ReplyYou’ll need to excuses the spelling and structural errors, in my initial post. I was googling furiously for a place to comment with anonymity. His eyes were red, crying. He knew he couldn’t reach for a towel and dry himself. He said, “shampoo in eyes”... to act tough and masculine, for me. Proud. His memory intact enough to know what he wanted to be doing.... his body doesn’t wouldn’t let him...........
Reply#kind_stanger. Thank you. I sat there refreshing the page, waiting for a comment..... not having the courage or want to reach out to anyone in my circle to vent and seek confort.
ReplyIf that's the case then I'm glad you found this site for now. Not the best at times depending on the situations BUT definitely a good choice for anonymous outlet and professional help if you wanna take it up a notch ❤
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