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Hello fellow Novni-ers,
I really want to hear from your experiences of when you started dating someone because you liked them but you know it wasn't love from the beginning.
At point did you realize you were in love with them?
Or did you not realize at all?
How did the dating relationship change over time?
What do you feel when you look into the eyes of someone that you love?
I hope to hear everyone's answer :) Thank you!
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This is a great question and I also want to hear what people say. With me (I am male) I met her at a charity event, we were planting trees. At first there was some physical attraction but like you said, it wasn't instant heart-pounding love. It was more like we both admired each other because we were sharing a common selfless goal. We kept meeting at other charity stuff, it was several months until we went out on a date, and even that was just as friends. A few more weeks of these friend dates and that's when the attraction became physical and eventually romantic. The "love" feeling happened after our first kiss, that's when we realized that we had probably been in love for weeks but didn't realize it. So I guess the point in my story is that it can take a while but it's worth it. And the best way to start is to find some common interest that you have that's non-selfish because that will bind you together.
ReplyOmgsh that's so sweet! Thank you for sharing <3 I wish you two happiness :)
ReplyMy story (also male) is a little different to the other comment.
Me and my girlfriend have known each other for like two years (she was a friend of a friend) but we never really spoke to one another until there was a party of this common friend. She was participating in the present me and my friends bought and we needed her to sign the card. 2 people left to find her but neither came back. So i decided to go get her. I walked over to her picked her up and she signed the card.
Afterwards we talked for like an hour or something. Someone with an instant-camera came and took two photos of us. One for each of us. We took them, talked more and everyone said you could see the attraction but neither of us did anything.
A couple of weeks later i actually got the courage to ask her out for coffee and so had our first date. I realized we liked each other a little more than just friends as she showed me the instant-photo that she carried in her wallet ever since.. and so did I.
Replyso 10th grade. the year before i went though some changes with my appearance, makeup, contacts, longer hair, the basics. me and this dude were friends for years. i had a minor crush but nothing much at the time. i mean he was h o t blond hair blue eyes cute face. we have been friends for a long time so we did a lot together and had a bunch of classes together. but i was in that casual do i like him do i not we should stay friends should we not phase. but i was busy af preparing for hoco. I was going out with my friends that day and he had someone he was gonna go with but they said no and he was a little upset by that. he still went and he and i hung out there. we danced like weirdos to popular songs and i somehow ended up with his tie and teased him about it and he just laughed. then a slow song came on a while later and he asked me to dance with him so i went for it. it was so fun. he asked me out the next day and we dated. for nine months of like everything i wanted in a relationship. it was two days before our tenth month that i noticed something odd about him. he didnt sit by me in the morning like usual. i figured he just wanted to sit with his friends bc he did that every so often. but then everyone at my table was just kinda looking at me strange. I didnt really know why but thought nothing of it. i was so happy and stuff bc i had him and he loved me at least thats what he said. I had band fest that morning so i had to leave first period a bit early. i told him bye and that i would text him when i was done. he didnt really respond but i was in a rush. then one of his best friends and my friend as well walked up to me and said they wanted to talk. at this point i was nervous. so i walked with him up into where the instruments were stored and i grabbed my clarinet and stuff then turned to him. and he said "Insert my boyfriends name is breaking up with you he likes another girl more then you" I just kinda fell apart that week. i loved him and he left me for someone else. I loved him for nine months and he left me. i just ran out of there and just wanted away from everyone. yeah i cried i mean who wouldnt, i felt ugly and not enough for his standards. its been a year and im still messed up by him. he also re asked me out three time after that, i said yes to one bc of me being broken and just wanting him again but he dumped me again. i just kinda lost hope after that. he is the only guy i ever dated that i actually loved.
ReplyYou sound like an amazing person who deserves someone just as amazing! You’re going to find it! Much love <3
Replymy first love was one-sided at first. i felt scared because he seemed so much better than me and out of my league. we slowly became friends, and he told me he liked me a little bit. deeply in love, i took this as the best thing i've ever heard. after about a week, he lost feelings for me. i felt hurt but i still really, really liked this guy. now i realize love isn't one-sided. i should love someone who is equally in love with me. it's unfair for one person to be pulling all the weight in the partnership.
Replywhen i first met him . i never thought he would be the one, my other friends thought he was the smarted one in univ but not me.. but soon we became friends then facebook friends and soon study together friends, i always had a protective caring feeling for him and he always appreciated, it was the summer vacations after our first semester as friends that we started to go out on dates ... and before the vacations ended he proposed me and made sure i could not say no, because the caring feels were already getting changed, but if he would not have mentioned i might not have realized. then soon i had my first kiss and the world changed after that ... nothing mattered any more, even if someone hated me or even if the mountain fell on me, i would still be smiling, love is so powerful and beautiful . it's been 8 years now and it is still the same( we had to make some efforts to see each other for sure after univ) , when i see his face i can not take my eyes off him .. i can feel his face with my eyes , my favourite part is his lips , so pink, so pretty , so delicious , i could kiss him forever.
however my heart pains to write that we are having trouble to see each other now because our families are against our relationship. but i still have faith , our love will prove itself and make people change
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