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ok, there’s this guy he’s in my grade and he plays basketball a pretty well know guy I’d say. And I like him I have for a while but I always suppressed the thought because the last time I tried going further with a guy it ended up going no where. This guy we’ve never talked I don’t even think he knows who I am. I know his sister also pretty popular, and I know some of his friends. He used to have a thing I guess with a girl I used to be close with in middle school. How she has a boyfriend so I know they aren’t together. But a guy like him anyone could be after him. I really want to text him I followed him on Instagram and he didn’t follow back. So I’m hesitant. I’m also scared I don’t know what I would say I’ve never talked to a guy seriously or had a boyfriend. I’m scared if I do he’ll tell his sister or friends. I’d be mortified. But my gut and all these signs make me feel like I shouldn’t be afraid. There could be repercussions, but life is short? There’s so much more that could go wrong, but if anyone’s reading this. What should I do? I’ve asked my friends and they think I should too despite all that’s holding me back. But they’ve never had bfs either, or a serious relationship at least. I’ve also heard some not so pleasant things about him like he gets bored of girls easily. Maybe I’m sulking for thinking I could be different maybe that’s why I’m scared. But I think if I never do I’ll regret it. There’s been times where I probably could of been in relationship, but I was scared. Scared of what more lies ahead. I don’t want to be afraid. Should I text him? If so what would I even say please someone help
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10 Tired. Maybe I'm just tired of everything or tired of everyone. I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. I feel like I'm so empty and sometimes I feel happy...
Definitely talk to him/dm him. Like you said, life is short, boys are fun. You never know if it could be something serious, but it might be nice to try. If you're scared of rejection, just dm him and text for a while before getting closer. Then talk to him at school every once in a while. You and him will get closer naturally if you just keep talking to him. try to be sort of flirty too.
ReplyI think I will but should I just disregard the fact that he never followed me? Should I be straight up in the dm
ReplyI think just say something like 'hey we go to the same school' or if you want to be bold say 'hey u look hot no cap' idt that him not following you matters that much... he might be busy and not even check his notifications, or maybe he only follows people he knows personally
ReplyWell, I did it and he never read it my friend added him on Snapchat and he added her right away so then an hour later I decided to do it and he snapped her saying “streaks sb bored” which means he was on his phone so he either declined the message or just never saw it but I’m so embarrassed now I don’t know how I can go to school I know it’s dramatic but I just don’t know what to do
Replyomigosh he sounds like an ass.
But like i get it if you still like him cuz i like an asshole too sooooo
also maybe he just thinks ur a nerd or something? First impressions, ya know. I'm not being helpful but maybe lay off focusing on this for a while. If he did see it and just declined than he'll forget about it in a while. Then message him again saying 'hey?'
ReplyWarning: unpopular opinion below!!!
I’ve felt this way before... sometimes you should go for it, but I’ll be honest here and tell you something you prob don’t want to hear... sometimes it’s best to hold back
I’ve had a crush so deep and long before, one that was actually mutually felt by both parties (myself and the guy)... So deep that my heart aches and I would dare to call it my first love (not just a crush).
I still - many years later - think of that person (who is now married with a child) fondly, but I must say I’m deeply glad I restrained my heart and admired him from afar. There were red flags that I tried not to see, that I still would almost rather I never saw, that would’ve ended up in a broken heart or a broken me... I’m glad I let my heart do it’s thing and take me on that journey of longing. But I’m glad I listened to my mind. I’m glad it remained warm smiles, red cheeks, “I-only-see-you-because-of-your-sister-but-it-makes-my-day-to-even-say-hi-to-you”, and a subtle flirting... and although my heart still smiles at his name, I’m entirely glad I never persued it into a relationship.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realised love and romance may be in the heart... but that the heart is so incredibly blind. It’s blind and sometimes we need to use our mind to see. You said he “gets bored of girls”... that tells me you might end up getting hurt... that he’s a player who doesn’t truly respect and care for women quite yet... That it might be better to keep your memories of him fond, rather than taint them with pain and a side of him you don’t want to see.
But I also don’t like the idea of “flings”... I like to treat myself like the diamond I know you and I both are... a guy should deserve us and respect us. I want a fun filled relationship with a hot guy but I want him to value me and I don’t want to be seen as a toy he might get bored playing with
so a long walk down memory lane later, my advice is this lol:
Only you can know exactly what the situation is, but in short my advice is listen to your heart... but first, consult with your mind... and maybe ask a good friend to give you their advice about his personality and going out with him :)
Replyokkk so I kinda of impulsively did it and I sent him a dm and he never saw it and it’s been a day almost my friend added him on Snapchat as a joke and he added her right away and then he sent her a snap saying to hit him up he doesn’t know her and he sent it to multiple people which means either he uses Snapchat more or he ignored it goshhhh I’m so dumb I don’t know how I’m gonna go to school now
ReplyJust say, "HI, how are ya goin'? whatcha up to? I've been doing (whatever you've been doing). Do ya wanna meet up some time?
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