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1. Give lot of time to your parents.
2. Talk with them, give them love.
3. Take them to places they want to visit (temples, tourist places ...)
4. Take care of all the expenses your parents have (grocery, house bills ...)
5. Make sure they have all types of insurances in case of emergency.
6. Do anything to keep them happy. Generally they don't tell directly to you. Use your intelligent to identify their needs and fulfill them.
7. Keep some backup money in their account in case of emergency.
8. Talk with them daily and ask for their needs.
9. If possible build a house for them and make sure they have all basic needs nearby.
10. Try to ask your parents dream and try as much possible to fulfill them.
Why before marriage?
1. You are independent and you can take decisions on your own.
2. Your spouse might interfere in your decisions and try to manipulate it.
3. You will have more use-cases/scenarios to deal with after marriage and planning is difficult.
4. You are stuck between your spouse and parents and can't go either way simply wasting your energy.
5. Your spouse will find every possible minute details and try not to make above 10 points happen.
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Sadly there are a lot of parents out there that don't want to spend time with their children.
As an adult I have offered to go on trips with my mother and she never wants to go.
ReplyBut people in South Asian countries neglect this and later realize their mistakes.
ReplyThis is greatly exaggerated and irrational.
Children/adult children should not be treated as slaves to their parents at all and demanded of these things. I believe children/adult children DO NOT OWE anything to their parents for being born. Parents decided to have kids and this is a great responsibility for life. It is not the responsibility and job for any young child, teenage child or adult child to feel obligated in taking care of ALL their parents desires, needs, wants and wishes. They're many parents who are truly undeserving of such things in life because they're completely selfish, dysfunctional, abusive and toxic towards their children!
The healthy efforts and dedication that parents put into their child/children's lives will ultimately determine not only their own future but the treatment parents will receive at old age.
Taking care of everything for your parents is irrational, unless it is truly necessary due to your parents severe and incurable illnesses.
To parents who have benefited their children's lives in a healthy and positive way, will receive love and care from their children naturally. Parents who have good intentions towards their children and put will be deserving of their children's time, help and efforts.
What you listed above is not something parents are entitled in demanding from their adult children.
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ReplyI don't think you'er wrong for wanting to do these things for your parents but I don't think parents should expect or demand that sort of thing. Your comments of having to do it before marriage do hint at a problem between you and your spouse though. I don't think that if you want to do these things that it necessarily has to be before marriage but that you should find someone to marry that has the same viewpoint as you. Unfortunately it sounds as if you have gotten yourself into a difficult situation and now you're stuck between the expectations of both your spouse and your parents. Try to find a compromise that will work for everyone and realize that they all have to give in a little. No one walks away from a compromise getting everything they want but hopefully enough to be happy with.
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