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Currently pregnant and paranoid that I will end up giving birth to a mentally disabled child. I dread the idea of being stuck with yet another burden that I didn't want any part in.
It's one of those situations of not knowing the end results and worried of the worst possible case scenario. I've developed a habit of constant worrying, overthinking and being pessimistic over the course of my life. It still doesn't change the fact that I'm a few months away before I give birth and worried about my pregnancy. My current circumstances within life at the moment is horrible and a nightmare to be in. A part of me wishes I had considered getting an abortion earlier and avoiding the entire situation altogether.
This pregnancy was unplanned and I couldn't afford doing thorough genetic testing, which was something I really wanted before having children of my own. It would of helped being aware of anything wrong genetically, that should be known to me and gain some peace of mind from knowing.
I can imagine myself not wanting anything to do with my baby, if it turns out to be mentally or physically handicapped at a severe degree.
I stick to my beliefs that those who will end up having severe cognitive, physical and/ or incurable medical issues, shouldn't be born to suffer for the rest of their lives.
Why be born and suffer for the rest of your life do to really horrible genetics?
I know that I wouldn't be happy at all giving birth to a baby with severe issues. I'm really hoping it will be far from being the case.
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Pregnant women happily look forward to their coming babies. Why are you so negative? Would you like it if your mother was thinking about you in this horrible way when she was pregnant with you? How nasty of you to think about a tiny innocent baby like this. You should stop all of this negative thinking away by pushing it away with good and positive thoughts. Where is the love for your coming little baby? Please write a list of all the good and positive thoughts about this baby that you can. If you are going to bring up a child with all of this bad thinking and talking perhaps you should consider adopting her/him out.
ReplyI really would like to ask, how do you know if all pregnant women look forward to their coming babies?
Is this based on your own experience of having your own children? Can you even bare children of your own to have an opinion anyways?
What if the circumstances was that some babies were conceived from rape, are pregnant women who suffer from this suppose to to be happy and enthusiastic about it?
Please get real and out of your "better than thou" fantasy world in which you live in. You act like you're some kind of advocate for all of the pregnant women around the world and dictating how pregnant women should feel about their unborn babies.
I doubt that you're of such power and importance to be telling others how they should live and feel. This is where you truly need to get over yourself and take a step back. To be honest, I could careless what my mother thinks of me and she was adopted, by the way. That never improved the quality of her life either. Anyways, it's irrelevant in regards to my post. I never said I was unhappy about expecting a child and I would of mentioned that. You should of read carefully what I wrote, then make assumptions about me and what I was expressing within my letter. I have my reasons at the moment to why I'm in a negative mindset. It makes no difference, you would be the last person to ever understand this and that's pretty clear to me.
Thanks for your so called helpful suggestion to make a list of good and positive thoughts.
You must make a list of good and positive thoughts yourself, right? I wonder how that's working out for you seeing that you're on this platform for some reason?
Anyways, I cannot be bothered by a stranger who chooses to criticize, shame, be judgmental and closed minded.
ReplyWell, if you think like this it may be that you are not prepared to be a mother.
I mean, can't you get an abortion now?
If not, you'll have to wait until it borns and them you'll have to decide whether giving it in abortion or keeping it.
ReplyI can see that you're completely obviously and ignorant towards my situation, but okay.
Let me clarify that I didn't ask for anyone's opinion in the first place. If I wanted feedback, I would of made that very clear within my letter and avoid receiving such useless criticism.
You stranger, need to not forget that you're of no significance within my life. I like to point out that you need to read carefully my post before replying to it. Consider in the near future on writing English properly, before telling someone else what do to with their own life, which has nothing to do with you anyways and doesn't impact you in any form. I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about here.
What is your motive with your comment towards me, what are you trying to gain from it and expecting in return?
It's a waste of time writing such a irrelevant comment that had absolutely nothing related to what I was expressing.
If you read what I had wrote carefully, it has nothing to do with not being ready to be a mother at all. My husband and I already made our choice and decision to keep our baby. We as both capable and grown adults decided to go through with this pregnancy.
I have only mentioned my fear of having a child with severe physical, mental and health issues. Which shouldn't be of surprising as most pregnant women have many fears and concerns during their pregnancy. This so happens to be my fears, concerns and feelings toward issues within my life. I was expressing how I cannot be burdened with more negative circumstances and toxic situations surrounding my life.
Good riddance.
ReplyI can see that you're completely obviously and ignorant towards my situation, but okay.
Let me clarify that I didn't ask for anyone's opinion in the first place. If I wanted feedback, I would of made that very clear within my letter and avoid receiving such useless criticism.
You stranger need to not forget that you're of no significance within my life, this meaning that you're of no importance towards me. I like to point out that you need to read carefully my post before replying to it. I'd like to suggest that you may want to consider in the near future on writing English properly. Don't be telling someone else what do to with their own life, which has nothing to do with you anyways and doesn't impact you in any form. I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about here.
What is your true motive with your comment towards me, what are you trying to gain from it and expecting in return?
It's a waste of time writing such a irrelevant comment that had absolutely nothing related to what I was expressing.
If you read what I had wrote carefully, it has nothing to do with not being ready to be a mother at all. My husband and I already made our choice and decision to keep our baby. We as both capable and grown adults decided to go through with this pregnancy.
I have only mentioned my fear of having a child with severe physical, mental and health issues. Which shouldn't be of surprise, as most pregnant women have many fears and concerns during their pregnancy. This so happens to be my fears, concerns and feelings towards issues within my own life. I was expressing how I cannot be burdened with more negative circumstances and toxic situations surrounding my life.
So, get off my case.
Good riddance.
ReplyRecent Research Results
Many independent prospective studies have now shown that if a mother is stressed, anxious or depressed while pregnant, her child is at increased risk for having a range of problems, including emotional problems, ADHD, conduct disorder and impaired cognitive development. Both altered brain structure and function have been shown to be associated with prenatal stress, and also the mother’s experience of early childhood trauma. While genetic transmission and the quality of postnatal care are likely to contribute to some of these findings of association, there is good evidence that there is a causal influence of the mother’s emotional state while pregnant also. Some studies have found stronger associations with prenatal maternal mood than paternal.
I copied this from www.child-encyclopedia.com/stress-and-pregnancy-prenatal-and-perinatal/according-experts/effects-prenatal-stress-child
for you. please get rid of all those negative thoughts RIGHT NOW, and give your little baby all the love and happiness it deserves before you permanently damage something.
Reply@Megan
I am fully aware of these studies.
It is much easier said than done to just stop negative thoughts and pretend all is well.
ReplyI know, and I am glad you are aware of that research... I wish you the best of luck, and i'm sending tons of love to help you through this!! ❤❤❤🤗🤗🤗 Maybe you can find more research about how to get rid of anxiety 😉… just a thought. i'm sure you'll find peace and happiness soon.
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