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My dad preaches. I don't want to call him a real preacher because he is a hypocrite, refuses to take responsibility in situations, refuses to give real apologies, and, as you might guess already, I very much dislike him. Well, recently he's been on a preaching obsession about Jezebel and what not, and he sure did seem excited about a website he found, a topic on racial stereotypes of Mammy, Jezebel, and Sapphire. So, he asked various people to read the article on it, including my mom and my sister. Because last week we had to admit him to the police for threatening to get a 9mm gun for being lackluster in his empty church (we were forced to go otherwise we'd be kicked out of the house), I've been on the radar pretty much ignoring him.
Well, two days ago he asked my sister to read the article about the racial stereotypes, and then they got into a "discussion," where my dad pretty much preached to her, my sister expressed her frustration about his topics getting old and boring, as she likes more interesting topics like "betrayal" or something instead of basal stereotypes people want to move on from. That discussion pretty much fizzled out.
So, for extra supply, he turns to me and asks what I felt about the situation. I read the article privately about an hour back, but I admitted to him, "I'm not really interested in this topic," when he asked me a question about it. And he tried to ask a follow-up question as though I answered the first. I repeated myself, and then he backed off for now.
This morning, he came to me asking (something like), "If people aren't aware about stereotypes, do you think that people evolve into them?" He had to repeat since I listened to music at the same time and I took off my earbuds. I shrugged and said, "I don't really know. I'm not really interested in this subject." And then he says, "You are evolving," and walks away.
Honestly, I was upset at first, but after thinking about it a little bit, I think, "Why take the advice of someone who admitted the stereotypes of yesterday?" (When he was talking to my sister, he mentioned that men of a particular race beat women, go to jail, take drugs, several more things, some of those things he listed which he's done) Why even let this bother me if he doesn't even live by what he preaches? A part of me was still mad at the fact though that he thought he could speak what I should be or become. That was my mistake for pretty much twenty years of my life.
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[[My note: I'm writing this as if my dad had a good heart, giving him the benefit of the doubt rather than writing from the evil perspective I've given him mentally.]]
Man! I've been preaching over Jezebel over the past few months, and I've found the article that can help me review this stuff more. I believe we're living under a generational curse, so knowing and understanding the stereotypes we've been labeled by can help us to break them. I'm not perfect, and I've made mistakes, but I can learn about the stereotypes of women now, considering I've heard of the stereotypes of men pretty much all my life.
I asked one of my daughters to read the article I found and asked her opinion on it. She seemed interested at first, answering questions, but she didn't quite agree with me on some aspects of the article, such as how we shouldn't live by stereotypes or even care what they are. She seemed to not like my constant preaching over Jezebel either, but I feel like God's given me a Word that might help someone. I'm glad I got to hear her opinion on it or at least talk about it with someone.
I asked my other daughter, but she didn't seem interested at all. She said that she wasn't really interested in the subject or something like that. But if she keeps ignoring me or what knowledge I can offer her, we won't be able to mend our relationship again. And, most of all, if she doesn't know about these stereotypes, I'm afraid she's going to end up just like those stereotypes in the process. I want to tell her this but she may not want to hear me. Maybe, I thought, I could have tried again later.
This morning, I went to her and asked her, "Do you think that people who don't know what stereotypes are they might become like them in the end?" I had to repeat myself (I don't like repeating myself) since she must have been listening to music. And she said again that she wasn't interested in the subject. She still didn't answer my question. So, I said to put a bow on this conversation, "You are evolving," to at least voice my concern. Maybe that'll give her an opportunity to think about what she's doing and change herself. Like I always say, "Forgiveness breaks the cycle of evil." Maybe she's not interested in what I preach at all.
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Sounds like your father is becoming his own stereotype. You know the one that says, people who are super religious are judgemental and arrogant.
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