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You are always the one I talk to when I just need to let stuff out yet I feel like half of the time you just don't listen. I'll ask a question and you simply won't reply and will go on to talk about something completely different. You are the one person I rely on and even you won't listen to me. No one will listen to me and that just makes it really hard. I wouldn't call myself attention seeking but no attention at all even from the ones you love most and the ones that you would listen to and try to help at any time, don't listen to you. It really, really hurts and just makes it feel like no one will care. Maybe one day I'll actually write something like this and send it to you but I'm afraid that you'll just say that you'll listen to me and still not listen to me. Then what do I do? What do I do now? I'm just so lost and feel so unloved.
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This is so hard. I have some experience of this and one of the people I love most has the worst listening skills and when they do actually listen for a moment, they then turn it into the time when that happened to them and go on about that for ages so you wish you hadn't bothered saying anything!
I can only suggest that you either find yourself others who will genuinely listen and rely on them or speak to the person about it and explain what you expect. I had to explain to a boyfriend that his complete lack of comment or any gesture at all - a yeah, nod, oh no! Etc meant that I didn't know if he'd listened as he would tell me he was listening but because there were no active listening skills there, I had to demonstrate what I expected. Some people just don't have those naturally.
If, on the other hand, you mean that they hear you and ignore you, that is different e.g. you ask them not to do something and they keep doing it anyway and you know they knew what you'd asked of them, that shows a lack of respect. We all make mistakes so some things can be forgiven but if it's repeatedly happening, it's time to change things so it either needs addressing or for you to find another listener. I sympathise though, it's tough. Xx
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