What are you looking for?
Featured Topics
Select a topic to start reading.
I need advice I'm worried that I may ruin the most wonderful part of my life if I can't get a handle on my emotions. My Mother-in-law lives with my Wife & I. There is a much deeper history involved but that is not for me to disclose. I have gotten to where I just can't stand her, she is a manipulative, narcissistic, sociopath who will stop at nothing to acheive her goals at the expense of the peace and sanity of the rest of our household. My level of distain has apparently grown to a point where my Wife has told me multiple times now that I unconciously glare at her & give off a "*bleep* off vibe". I'm not sure what I can do to solve my feelings towards her, I can't help how I feel. I'm tired of her dictating our lives, I'm tired of her inconsiderate actions that jeopardize everyone else but she could care less as long as she gets what she wants out of it, & I'm tired of her acting like Grandmother of The Year around our 19 month old when I know damn well she doesn't care about anyone but herself & it makes me sick to my stomach anytime she has even the slightest interaction with her. It's not that we haven't spoken with her about it, we all have - multiple times! She then hides behind her "I'm schizoeffective, I have all these issues, blah-blah..." We can't even kick her out because we need her income to afford the place we're in, a place we only needed to accomodate her to begin with... I keep telling myself that if my Wife can forgive her for all she did in the past that I should be able to let go of how she makes me feel but I'm just at a total loss here, despite current efforts I still find myself on the verge of boiling even just being in the same room as her... *sigh* there seems to be no clear answer here & so I guess all I can do is control/hide my emotions towards her before it creates issues between my Wife & I. Does anyone have any advice? Like, ACTUAL advice (murder is illegal).
If you see a comment that is unsupportive or unfriendly, please report it using the flag button.
More Posts
-
Hi!
Hey, random scroller! I just wanted to say that someone loves you. no matter how hard things may be, they will get better. Have a great day....
-
Confused
So now on top of my relationship being confusing now we add COVID-19. We have been separated physically for 2 years but still together as a couple because we ar...
For the sake of your marriage and health of everyone involved, it’s time to downgrade the home and send her packing. This isn’t good for anyone. I actually just had a talk with a friend about this but it was her mom living with them. Same exact situation though. Allowing her to continue on only enables her toxic behavior, which is not good for her. My mother in law lived with us for a while and life was a fucking nightmare. Ultimately, I had to tell my husband either his mom goes or I go because it’s not healthy. She left and has been doing incredible on her own. Things she didn’t honk she was capable of, she accomplished when we stopped babysitting her. Our relationship significantly improved too. Turns out I really do love her but just can’t live with her. Good luck to you.
ReplyYou and your wife should move away from this woman before things become physical between you and her. Or tell her to find somewhere else to live and replace her with someone else. You must tell your wife that things can't keep going like this so that she understands how you feel about this situation. If you keep your mother in law with you things can get very nasty. Good luck to you and your wife.
Reply