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Before I say anything, I’d like to say that I’m a sixteen year old boy who has two parents who live paycheck to paycheck. You’ll most likely skip over this now, thinking, “he’s only sixteen, he’s too young to know what true sadness is.” And you might be right. I just feel the need to open up about this.
Right before the country went on lockdown, my fifty-five year old grandpa moved in with us. He did meth his entire life and was given the numbers of days he has to live because of cancer. That was three years ago. He’s only lived with us for about three months, but my parents didn’t let him bring his meth with him, so he suffered some pretty bad withdrawals. He’s now at the point where the only time he gets up from the couch is when he needs to go to the bathroom, but he still struggles tremendously with that. He refuses to get help, so my mom has to do all of the work for him to move into a nursing home because we can’t afford another mouth to feed. My dad has to work too because he’s our only source of income. I’ve felt so neglected these past few months and i haven’t really talked about any of it, I’ve just bottled it up and silently cried about it at night. I know that all I have to do is wait until things get better, but the days keep getting longer and longer and I don’t know how much more I can handle.
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It is problem your family must fight against. I understand that you are only 16 but you do not have to have many experiences to understand that what you are going through is a big issue. I respect your experience regardless of your age.
First of all, you should not think that this is something that should not happen to you as it could happen to any of us. Try to think how this can be resolved rather than how bad this is or how much worse it could get. Try to break the problem down into small parts to deal with them individually. For example, money is one, emotional side is another. It may be possible for you to contribute your family if you get a part time or a summer job. This should also help you to feel better mentally to have helped your family. Alternatively, you may want to create a bridge with your grandpa so you could help him too other than your mum. Sometimes it is the job of the young members of the family to pull things together. Think of how you or others could help by accomplishing small tasks. Acceptance of the situation is going to help your family to overcome with the unwanted tasks.
Just understand that this issue could go anywhere from here. Do not have final expectations. Try to contribute small but meaningful things at this time of your crisis or ask others to do so. If you can cope with this issue, this experience at your young age should help you a big deal when you are older with your other challenges. Do not forget that yesterday you had problems and tomorrow you will have them too. It is a matter of how you perceive those problems to challenge them positively. Keep strong, be strong and do not forget to enjoy what your window allows you to.
ReplyStay tough, the older you get the faster time goes by. Soon you will be out of that environment and in college.
ReplyYou're defo not too young to know what true sadness is
ReplyHi. I started reading it and no, it made me want to keep reading it.
16 year olds can feel such an emotion just as any other person can.
And in your situation its only logical to do so.
Your situation definitely isn't an easy one.
Being in a nursing home might be better for all of you. So everyone gets to process the past few months. I am aware of the fact that it will still be difficult and all but it is very important that you get to express your feelings and thoughts to it aswell. Since you are as much affected by this stress and trouble as any other part of this family. Stay safe and strong. You can get through it and it WILL get better. Something that always seems to help me through hard times is writing down all the anger, sadness and worries I have in a letter and then burn it. It will not take your troubles away forever but it can surely be freeing.
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