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Hey. I didn't really know where to write this but it's really causing me issues. So I've never been the 'jealous' type before. I've never been overly attached or clingy, I've never been possessive. But recently I'm starting to scare myself with my own thoughts.
I'm a guy, and I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for three years. In college I was always ultra athletic, buff and charismatic, and people really liked me. People got crushes on me all the time, and I was probably quite arrogant about it. My boyfriend was sort of in the background more, which was where he liked being. He never really made an effort with his appearance, which I didn't mind either. He was sort of more into his studies.
But since getting a job he's done a complete 180. He's eating really well, working out loads. He probably looks better than ME now. And he's getting loads of attention. When we go out on the street together, people turn their heads to look at him.
I should be happy for him, right? But for some reason I'm not and I can't fathom why that could be. I'm actually really jealous. I think I'm getting possessive over him now too. Even if he mentions someone snapping him or even talking to him, I get overwhelmed with an angry sort of jealousy. I also keep snapping at him for things that aren't his fault at all, and my jealousy is really impacting our relationship. I'm not sure what's come over me, or what to do about it. The last thing I want to do is become a toxic person, or stunt my boyfriend's personal growth.
How do I get over feeling like this?? Thank you.
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You are comparing yourself to him. Instead of you being in the limelight he is and you don't like it. You had your turn and now it is his. Just accept things the way they are now and let him enjoy himself without you spoiling it for him. Be happy for him. You could have a jealous nature and if it will affect your relationship see a psychiatrist.
Replylisten understand that it's not bad to feel like this since all emotions are valid its just understand they come and go. I think that you should just be honest that you feel kinda like overwhelmed withy this load of jealous and talk it out and make sure you agree with ways to trust and communicate. Just make sure that you know it's not your's nor his fault.
ReplyYou need to talk to your partner. It sounds like he just found his flow and he is embracing it. There maybe a few things you are worried about that is turning into jealousy. It's okay to be selfish with wanting your partner all to yourself, however do not choose to smother or block his light. Address how he be hot and all, but seeing others look at him makes you feel left out. Make sure to not mistaken lime light for an accusation of cheating from your partner.
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