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Was going through some of the descriptions people wrote in their profiles on their matrimonial profiles about the kind of partner they were looking for and something struck me after I read these words…
Need a simple, caring, and understanding partner…..
The guy is 35 years old. I am 34 years old now.
As far as I understand, nothing about being in 30s is simple. By the time people (both men and women) reach this age, they have seen a lot, experienced a lot and their lives have gone through a myriad of complications. Life is not simple anymore.
Why ask for such unrealistic things when they do not exist? Am I missing something here? What does simple mean? Does it mean women who are less educated, so they will stick to taking care of home and children and not ask a lot of questions, or women who will follow their husband's orders and give up on their own dreams and ambitions? Women who will be dependent on their husbands for the rest of their lives. I do not have a problem with such women because if women didn't do these things, perhaps I wouldn't be where I am today. Our entire generation stands on many such women and mothers who gave up their dreams to take care of their families.
My Mom is one such woman who sacrificed all her dreams and comfort, ambitions and rest to take care of all of us. Me, my brother, my dad and my grandfather are doing well because my Mom did give up a lot to make us happy. She continues to do so even today.
Nothing about this is simple either. Can you imagine to live your entire life to make others happy? In the Indian context, a woman is supposed to be at the mercy of her father before her marriage and at the mercy of her husband after marriage. If she is unlucky, she never gets to know who she is by herself EVER in her life because she doesn't get to explore what life is outside of her apparent caretakers.
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"simple, caring, and understanding partner"
It sounds like they may have some issues in their own life and they are hoping that the person they marry will be understanding of that. They probably also want someone that is not "high maintenance" or expecting an extravagant lifestyle. At least that's what it sounds like to me.
ReplyI am an Indian woman and I don't like to get married ever...
ReplyI think this man means when he says simple is someone who isn't full of problems that he is expected to deal with. A lot of women complain to their boyfriends about their issues and expect help from them when they should really talk to a counsellor or therapist. Also women now want to be the boss in the house and control the man. When a man says he is the head the woman says she is the neck and the neck controls the head. Things have certainly changed.
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