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Everything seemed to be going really well at the start but I also felt like my friend and her boyfriend really didn’t know each other when they first got together. (Background info: our age group is 15-16 years old.
So 6 months down the road from the beginning of the relationship (aka these past few weeks), we found out that she and her boyfriend have very different political views and that he does drugs (these are the things she hates the most). Also (in his own words) he likes to “tease speds”. Sometimes he doesn’t respond to her texts/calls for up to half a day and blames it on oversleeping or watching a tv show. Despite talking to him about how it makes her feel, he hasn’t changed. He actually frequently calls her “overdramatic” even though she literally has anxiety disorders and has been in toxic relationships in the past which he was made aware of.
Whenever I try to talk to her about how she needs to communicate with him about how he shouldn’t be doing drugs, she just avoids me. Although she did slightly mention it to him, he acted like doing drugs was no big deal. And now she’s just brushing it off in fear of not knowing what to do.
She doesn’t seem to want to break it off with him and no matter how hard I try, I’m just not good at consoling her when she gets panic attacks about her boyfriend doing these things. Personally I don’t think it’s a good fit but I’m willing to see it through if he changes.
I just desperately need some kind of advice to give her because I can’t make the decision for her on whether she should break up with him or not
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This is rough. We can’t make these decisions for them, as you already mentioned, but we can be there when they get out of it. This doesn’t look good long term. I hope your friend snaps out of it. You both deserve better. It’s okay if you’re not the best at consoling her. Sometimes they just need us there. It’s not your job though, so if it begins to be too much, tell her that you care for her but it is hurting you
ReplyToxic Relationship are like a drug in itself.
You can see this perfectly from the outside but from the inside we blind our selves.
Ultimately its up to her, she's young.
Ask her if she can picture a future with this guy.
If she can't why stay.
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