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I so just met this guy from a new course I've started to take a few months ago and we kinda meet every now and then, I told him I ahve a boyfriend from the start so he wouldn't get any ideas from the get go. I've noticed that he really can't focus on my face if i'm wearing clothing with cleavage, I think he also has a foot fetish because he kept looking under the table when I wore sandals, and he asked me few questions about my feet after that. I started to be more careful about what I wear next to him. Today, as we were leaving, out of nowhere, he asked me if I ever cheated on my boyfriend, and I said yes because I wanted to be honest (i was drunk and it was a one time thing) he got very exicted and asked when will we meet again and he said he'll make us dinner at home. I gave him a date and time, he asked me to wear high heels. And we separated, I didn't think too much of it at the moment but on the bus home I thought that he may be thinking that he'll bang me. Am I giving it too much thought? Or is he really going to do something? Should I go or should I cancel?
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Ask your boyfriend what he thinks you should do.
Apart from what your boyfriend thinks - in my experience this "player" is thinking of one thing and you are taking a huge risk by going into his home. At that point, anything that happens is your word against his, and since you have a boyfriend whom you are hiding this date from then this "player" knows you will not tell anyone what happens so he has nothing to lose by trying the oldest tricks in the book of giving wining and dining you. It's a scientific fact that when we consume alcohol we make poor decisions. Or, worst case scenario, read what Bill Cosby was convicted of doing to women who entered his home.
ReplyI was reading this over and over and I think that you should go. If you feel as if it's getting weird or suspicious, you should definitely not be near him. That question was basically an invite to let him get closer to you. Be careful!
ReplyCancel, meeting another guy in private is just asking for trouble. Would you want your boyfriend to meet up with a girl alone at her house while she is cooking him dinner and asking him to wear something she likes to see him in?
ReplyWell, your boyfriend wouldn't know if you did anything am I right?
ReplyPrecisely, because if something happens against her will she's going to feel ashamed and blame herself so she will never tell anyone; this is what these players count on. I'm referring to him as a "player" because Mr. Smooth Talker clearly has no respect for the fact that she's in a committed relationship. So why would he respect her in his own home? Read about what Bill Cosby did to women who voluntarily walked into his home.
Bottom line - she should ask her boyfriend if he thinks it is ok for her to go meet this guy for dinner at his house. Let's put it all on the table and not sugar coat anything.
Like I always say.. you can sprinkle some sugar on a dog turd you find on the sidewalk... it's still dog turd. Sugarcoating something doesn't make it "safe to consume."
ReplyHonestly from someone who studied psychology and has had personal experience with people who do not respect women. This friend has completely bad vibes and bad intentions. he is clearly into you and does not respect the fact you are in a relationship. In my honest opinion, if I were someone close to you. I would say, do not go. You are putting so much at risk. Just ask yourself, how well do you know this person and that he will not try making a move or putting you in a hard situation. At the end of the day, you are going to do what you want to do it. And if you decide to go and he makes a move, just be careful and be ready to shut him down. But please be careful, this person gives off horrible vibes.
ReplyIt does sound like he’s trying to start that. I’d cancel
ReplyYou should cancel.
ReplyBetter Meet him outside like in open and public place..like cafe or restaurant. If you want to meet him like a casual meeting
ReplyThe fact that you’re thinking that he’ll want to do more than hang out with you should already raise some red flags. If you’ve cheated on your boyfriend before then I’m sorry but it sounds like you need to break it off with him. 1. Out of respect for him. And 2. If you’re into other guys then just do those things when you’re not in a relationship. Cheating can really hurt.
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