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Hello, introvert here. For the people out there like me, I have a question. What do you do is someone tells you "say something, anything" during friendly meetings? Or any similar conversation.
I personally just say random things like the weather, studies, pets whatever but I feel like I'm being a boring person. Meanwhile when my friends talk, they always seem to be making the atmosphere fun and I feel like I'm disappointing them when I don't do the same. I feel a little guilt sometimes. Other times I feel annoyed because I was enjoying listening to my friends then they suddenly interrupt the fun by focusing on me. I can't handle the responsibility of being the source of fun for everyone why give it to me suddenly?
Anyway what are your thoughts on this?
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ReplyI'm an introvert and a lot of people told me that lol I just say "ok" and laugh because idk if it's just me but it kinda irritates me when people say something like that to me or ask "why are you so quiet?" like what do they want me to do? Perform?
I used to think the same, I'm a boring person who just ruin a fun atmosphere by my friends or acquaintances. I used to tried to act like an extrovert so I wont be "boring" but I realize that it's exhausting and stressful to pretend lol when i started to not care about what others think and just be myself without thinking of coming across as funny, and charming to others that's when I started to have a lot of people who genuinely enjoyed my company. I just say what I honestly think about the conversation. If I think of a joke I'll say it, doesn't matter if they laugh at the joke what matters to me is I laugh at my own jokes lol. My advice is just be yourself without thinking of yourself as "boring". Don't be afraid express yourself, individuality is beautiful and so are you. Be genuine with people, don't fake a persona for them Trust me, people feel if the energy you're giving off is real or not. Anyways Good luck my fellow introvert ~~
ReplyGenerally I say “something, anything” back, and then go to find people who can match my energy and not make me feel bad about myself
ReplyLearn some jokes so that when the focus is on you just tell a joke and make them laugh.
ReplyMy thoughts are that everyone is expected to be extroverted. It’s just how the world is built, and as a introvert myself, I really hate it. I remember my yearbook from my senior year in high school, ALL of my friends just wrote about how I’m quiet. Like, this is all you can think of to write to me?!
ReplyRhubarb! or any other totally random word. Shrug and laugh and tell them you'er just not a very talkative person but you still enjoy the conversation.
They probably just don't want you to feel like they are excluding you but if they know you are fine with it they probably will be too.
Also as an alternative you could try talking about something that really interests you. Even though I am an introvert, when I get excited about a topic I tend to talk a lot about it, sometimes too much.
ReplyMy friend group is comprised of caring and funny extroverts. When they ask me to say something or for my thoughts, I just say the exact truth (examples: I've never even heard about that, I can't really think of anything to say, I'm just enjoying the conversation, random funny fact, hmm this isn't my strong suit) One thing I've learned is people are attracted to honesty, like big time. They will see you as down to earth, honest(duh), and even smart. Honesty is the best policy once you become honest with yourself and others where you stand people will respect you. I guarantee this works
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