Please give me some advice or reassurance......

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• Takumi_Harudashi · 4 years ago

  Hey... There is nothing to be afraid or shy of. I also have the same thing as you do, I hate it when people saying something like stop being a shy person or just go out there and show the world how you can do it. But it doesn't have to be that way, I'm not going to be a cliche when people can do it so do you. So instead...

  Being different is your superpower! The world doesn't need normal it needs extraordinary! Just in my case flying solo is much better but having someone with you is good too. Remember is just the voice inside of your head telling you not to do, sometimes it's your choice whether to listen to it or not.

  No, your not a wimp, I know it's hard? But try to look at the positive side right now, heading out from your comfort zone is way difficult than we could think. But if you try? Maybe it'll be worth it? Remember if you dare to stop you'll fail, if you keep trying to make it. It'll be worth it in the end!

  PS: Best out of luck I hope my words are not bad, Lol. But good luck! <3

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    Thank you so much! Your words aren't bad they are actually good and I can't thank you enough.

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• MidnightKitty · 4 years ago

  Hey :)

  I totally feel you. I myself classified as a 'shy' person most of my life but really I had social anxiety and I was afraid of people judging, rejecting or excluding me. I was already at a point like you where I had really low self-esteem and confidence, I always wished that I could just display my true personality but I was always afraid to (still am sometimes). But let me reassure you, things do get better, you have to find out what helps you.

  For example, for me, I decided to step out of my comfort zone. How? I started public speaking and joining the leaders in my school community, it gave me a boost to talk to others even if I do get rejected or excluded, at least I knew what I was doing and felt self-assured.

  I think we are always scared of what people might think of us and it is hard to tell someone to 'stop being shy' when that does nothing but make you feel more guilt. I always felt degraded by my parents as well since they would compare me to other girls and say that I had zero confidence.

  Let me just tell you this, do you trust yourself? It will take time but email your teacher and prepare yourself for any commentary that she can make whether it be rejection or just judgemental. If she agrees, great for you but if she says no, do not fear, I want you to inhale and exhale deeply and approach a friendly face.

  Maybe even message them first on a social media platform if you're afraid to face them first and ask them if you can join in. I am sure someone will try and help.

  Also,

  You're not a girl-wimp, at all. To me, you seem like a genuinely good hearted individual. Everybody has their personal challenges and insecurities they face and you're so brave for standing up and trying to make a change within yourself.

  I believe in you <3

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    Not a million thanks can tell you how thankful I am. Reading your replies really encouraged me.☺

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• Selkie · 4 years ago

  Hey kiddo, just want to tell you that it's okay to be shy and feel emotions. It doesn't make you a wimp. If it is hard for you to approach someone physically, I recommend sending them a small message... something along the lines of "Hey, this is _____. I'm in your ______ class and was wondering if you wanted to be partners for the project". I understand that this is can be difficult too, but remember that not everyone wants you to fail or are making fun of you, even if you think that. I am really sorry that those bullies made you think like that. It can be very difficult, but maybe there's someone in your class that's also like you. It requires a lot of strength to speak up. Once again, you seem like a very nice person and just because you are shy doesn't mean you are a wimp. You are enough, don't let anyone else define who you are. You are you and that's an amazing thing. I'm not sure if I have helped you or gave you some reassurance, but I hope everything goes well. Take care of yourself kiddo!

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  • Novni Guest · 4 years ago

    Thank you, I will keep your words in my head when I start to feel anxious or feel down when I have to socialize.

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• Novni Guest · 4 years ago

  My motto: Keep living just to see the looks on their faces when you prove them wrong.

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