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I don't know what to do after school. What college to go to, or what subject I want to choose. I do get good grades, but I have no idea about what I want. I definitely do not want to be a doctor, nor anything medical related. My childhood dream was Astronomy, but now I hear about how tough it is there, and when I think of all the stress I'd have to take to even START college there makes me think it's not worth it.. I like writing, but I don't think I can write good or regular. I like drawing, but it's not anything amazing. I'm pretty average. And I have no idea what to do. Next year I have to take the 1st 'life changing exam' of my life. Boards. And I'm scared, maybe not of the exam itself, but what comes after it.what if don't get the grade I need? My parents aren't that well off, they'd find it very hard to recommend for the good colleges unless I get in by merit. Left and right I hear stories about the students who just finished and aren't getting admission anywhere. It's terrifying when I think about it. Because I don't really know what I want. I don't know what to choose. I'm scared of growing up. What am I even supposed to do as an adult? I don't know how taxes work or anything that all these adults somehow know? Maybe they don't? I need some advice please
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Trust me, I'm 25 and I'm still scared of growing up. Don't freak yourself out about it, every one is just trying their best to make it through this life! Although it's important to have a big goal in mind, there is nothing wrong with taking it one step at a time and playing it by ear. Everything will work out. Even adults are still learning and have to learn how to do taxes at some point and it is all a big learning curve for every one
ReplyI guess you're right.. I should try to find out something I want to be, but it's so hard when I think like, oh this is something I should be able to do regularly and depend upon. But you're right though.. I'll go with the flow for now, and I'll study as hard as I can, hopefully everything will work out.. thank you for your help! Your reply calmed me down, and I guess I shouldn't worry very hard about that right now. thank you<3
ReplyMe too bro..now that you say it too, I'm scared again...it's the uncertainity of things and my lack of any goals/aims :(
Maybe try not stressing over it by distracting yourself like me? Because I realized it's out of my hand anyway so I'm okay with whatever comes my way.. and about taxes and living as adults, I saw many adults make stupid mistakes too so I'll learn along the way maybe
Replyyeah.. you're right, I won't freak myself out over this.. but it's still scary though.. I hope everything works out for you! Thank you<3
ReplyHi there. You sound exactly like me.
At school I was pretty decent at everything, I loved drawing and writing and astronomy SO MUCH but understood how difficult it was to get into that field. When it came to deciding what to do for university, I was so scared. I had no idea what to pick. I settled on a middle ground (Psychology, seemed halfway between a science degree and an English degree).
I still love astronomy more than anything, but I've managed to pick the correct degree. It's been 5 years since I decided to select this "random" programme, and now I can see myself doing it for the rest of my life. There are so many fields within it, so consider this as well. If you pick a degree, it's not set in stone that you're dedicating the next 50 years of your existence to it. Maybe you will, but chances are you won't. You'll gain so many experiences from ANY degree. If you're lucky, you'll pick the right one like I did, despite it being completely random for me.
Astronomy, drawing and writing are fantastic hobbies. I love curling up in the winter months with a blanket and sitting outside with a hot drink, staring at the sky. I would love to do that for the rest of my life, but the fact that I only do it as a hobby makes it super special.
What I'm trying to say is that basically it doesn't matter. I don't know how taxes or bills work, but they just happen. It's something you learn with age. It doesn't matter that your future isn't set in stone, because it could all change tomorrow. You might find a degree you like the look of next week and think "This is it". You might decide not to do a degree. Things will work out, and worrying about them makes no difference. I submitted my university application a few weeks before it was due without knowing what I wanted to do, and now I'm doing something I love.
Just wait and see what happens. Good luck (:
ReplyOh, thank you so much. I'm so relieved now.. thanks so much for sharing, finally I know someone who has faced this same thing. I'm glad it worked out for you, and I hope everything goes okay for you<3 I'll try not to dwell on this problem and.. I don't know, try something else? something different maybe.. again, thank you so so much. Your words really helped me<3
ReplyYou're my India, right? Pata hai, main bhi.
And guess what, I'm currently in 10th as well, and I'll be giving the Boards next year as well!
You said you get good grades, so you're set with the part you have a choice. Be grateful to not be one of those who are pushed into a field because they're not eligible to be anything else.
Ok. So, you are also clear that you donot want to do anything medicine-related. Taking that you mentioned this specific career, your parents are doctors, aren't they? Yup. Mine too (we're like twins), although I am going to be a cardio surgeon (not, it's not like hereditary, I do like the profession)
Next, Astronomy, you say? Yup, bro, no joke at all. I had a astronomy craze too (how did I find someone so similar to me?)
but turns out that I love nasty bloody cardiac tissue and not stars and planets. But I still do like learning about space. As for you, this has to be your choice. It is really a HUGE amount of hard work, but you'll find, if you think about it - if you really love something, the hardwork or the time doesn't scare you. 15 years of studying doesn't scare me. If all that hardwork seems worth it to you, go for it!
Now, honey, there is a characteristic feature observed in all good writers and artists- their own work seems average to them. And, even if it is, so what? This is the main thing in your post that touched me, because this happened to me too. I nearly drowned myself in all my worries of 'What if I'm not good enough at it?' The answer? It doesn't matter. More than whether you're good at it or not, your career should be what you love. If you do something you like for the rest of your life, it doesn't matter if you stink (you can't) I love writing as well. I would say it is the only thing I love more than Biology.
And, you will get into college, really, you will!
Don't stress about it. Look, there is only one way to get to college - by working hard. And stressing lowers your potential. So don't.
And honey, taxes are very ,very complex! I'll just get someone else to do them for me, to be honest.
No one goes into the world fully trained to be an adult. No matter how much your parents train you, there is always stuff you can only learn on your own . And, even if you are a super disorganized adult (like I will probably be) that's okay. You'll make it, don't worry.
Wow, this was long. It's just, whenever I find an Indian, I cannot resist just pouring my heart out!
You'll make it! Keep going! I'm rooting for you! (P.S. Are you from Agra?)
ReplyHello! You're right, I am from India, though I don't quite get Hindi that much. My native language isn't hindi, but I do understand it. This is so crazy that we like the same things. But there's one thing though, my parents aren't doctors.. I just can't see myself in the field because I have an irrational fear of, yk, deep wounds and some kinds of diseases terrify me. I have fainted twice at a seminar at school on this topic, not my best moment oof. And about what you said about not being good enough.. now that I really think of it from another perspective, you're right, it doesn't matter.. I guess if we think like that, we'll never be good enough. But I guess our best is our best, and that's it.. I sort of think I'll go where it takes me.. and if I don't like it, I'll try something else. Thank you so so much for sharing, it really helps to hear from someone else about the same problem.. your words really touched me, and I'm so grateful you found this post and decided to comment. I hope everything goes okay for you and thank you so much.. I think I'll NOT overthink on this and freak myself out. and I'm glad you decided to help out a completely random person today, because that really lightened the weight on my mind. thanks so much again! (I'm not from Agra, I'm from South India, wbu?) (And I'm rooting for you too!)
ReplyI can understand
but you will get through it
I used to really like astronomy as a kid
so live your dream for me
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