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I lie constantly. And I have no idea why.
I’ve always been like it. Ever since I was a child I would always exaggerate the truth, or tell TOTAL lies just to elicit a reaction from people, or to make people feel more connected to me. Someone would say their brother smokes weed and be all sad about it, and in my odd way of trying to empathise Id lie and say my brother does too. Oddly, I wasn’t totally aware of it. It was almost like I deluded myself into actually believing my own lies.
Not small lies- like ‘I burnt my toast this morning’ (although I do say those, probably more than I realise). I tell big lies. I make up things about my past... It just feels right to say it on the spot. I told someone once that I was homeless for a week, which wasn’t true at all. But while I was saying it, I felt like it was right. I’ve said that I observed my mother shoot heroine, I’ve given people completely made-up grades.
I became aware of the fact that I lie a lot quite recently, and was grateful that I made it through school without being caught out. I told myself that in college, I would be different. I make a point of trying not to lie. But I still do it! It’s almost like a nervous tick at this point.
I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t know why I lie so much, or why it feels so natural when I do it. I realise hours later when I’m lying in bed ‘OMG- I totally made that up earlier!’ What is wrong with me?? If people find out about how much I’ve lied to them I’ll have totally screwed myself over!
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It comes from a place of not feeling good enough. I think you should talk to someone you can really trust and tell them you're trying to improve yourself in this area if you need someone to keep you accountable. Make a habit of being brutally honest, and if you catch yourself lying, try to be honest about how you sometimes exaggerate, but your working on it. People will respect you for trying to fix your problems and owning up to them. Seriously how can you be mad at someone for lying to you when they already told you that they have a problem with that? Remember progress isn't always linear but you WILL get there.
ReplyIt could be obsessive compulsiveness. You'd probably need to see a therapist. I know a guy who lies about everything and he doesn't have to but he's always been like that. Idk what makes people that way.
ReplyI was also in the same situation as you . I was struggling with an issue and didn't want to tell my friends about that because that was so embarrassing . So , I made up lies to hide that fact from them . I kept telling lies but they could not understand that I was lying . But after a few months I started feeling guilty about this . So I decided to tell them the truth . After I told them the truth they said to me that , " it's ok . Because you have confessed now . You should have told us earlier . " If you want to come out of your lies , you should tell yourself that " no more lie tomorrow " And try hardest to not to lie . That's how you can overcome this .
ReplyI know how you feel, i tend to lie about stories that would gave no impact what so ever, yesterday i lied to my best friend about falling out of a tree at the weekend?? And i do it so naturally it scares me sometimes. I've also lied about throwing up from anxiety and sometimes it feels like my brain believes it even though I know its a lie.
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