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I’m starting to think I can’t be friends w this girl anymore (let’s call her Rihanna). she can’t let go of toxic people and always seems to allow it to effect me and her other friends. she obsesses over how many followers she has on social media and brags about that kind of stuff. she’s hurt me twice in the past and ended up talking crap about me behind my back, believing random people over her own friend. Rihanna and I are part of a little friend group though that includes us and one other girl (let’s call her Alison). I wanna tell Alison how I’m feeling but I know that if and when I tell Rihanna she’s going to probably not understand or talk crap again. I don’t want it to be awkward or whatever and I’m afraid Alison will join in on it all, even though that’s not like her at all. Please help me.
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Drop, go away from toxic people. Don't tell Alison because she might tell Rihanna. Just dip bro
ReplyDrop. It sounds like you really can't trust either of them. You can't say that Alison isn't that type of person if she would join in on the shit talking she is doing it out of fear of being ridiculed by Rhianna or the other friends in the group. Do you really want a friend that is so spineless she would talk shit about you rather then stick up for you? It's not easy to face but if that is the type of person she is that IS like her. Of course you can't make a decision if you don't know that's the case, so keep Alison around but it sounds like you need to be cautious of what you tell her and until she breaks your trust you shouldn't punish her for what she may or may not do/be doing. As far as Rhianna goes, if it will negatively impact your other friendships, those aren't friend I'd keep around personally. However, it's not so easy to just shut out your entire friend group. I would simply interact with her as little as possible when you are all together, and not at all when you don't have to. You can still be civil and maintain appearances. Honesty is really the best option. So many people claim they are blunt but really aren't. If she says something you disagree with then voice your opinion. If you can't voice your true feelings around your friends without being berated or treated like shit then are they really your friends or people you want to be friends with? Rhianna sounds like she is riddled with self esteem and inferiority issues, and has unfortunately her idea of how a woman should act has been corrupted by the media which is why she is the way she is. She's weak minded and self-centered and unable to think for herself. I would tell Alison you aren't interested in being friends with self-absorbed people that talk behind your back and insist on filling their boring lives with drama and that you don't want to be included in plans that involve her. She will understand and agree or she won't. Do you really want to be friends with people that are interested in being friends with people like Rhianna? Let her drown herself in her own misery. She'll either come crawling back or she'll be consumed by that life and end up with baby daddy drama and all that jersey shore bullshit and hate her life and herself eventually. Don't change or quiet yourself for friendship, and don't make friends with people that do.
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