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Sooo I’m 22, I live with my mom, brother who is 29 and his wife and son. My mom no longer works so I give rent money and my brother pays the rest of the rent along with food and things from the household. I pay for my mom and I’s things like shampoo and pads and things that WE Need. My mom no longer works because she has worked her whole life for us so now it’s our turn. But recently I’m going in a trip with my mom and my brother and his wife and son. My brother was like “buy my mom some new clothes and shoes for the trip” I paid half for the hotel already. My brother was the one who decided to rent a car because ours are small. So he asked me for half of the money for the rental car and I’m just there like ahhh “ I didn’t expect to pay since it was his idea but ok” keep in mind I’m paying off some expenses on the side because my car is getting fixed about $1,400 so far. But when my brother told me buy my mom new clothes and stuff, the next day I was thinking isn’t it his mom too? All my moms expenses are going to be On ME. She’s not only my mom!! I really didn’t want to say anything but getting my car fixed is leaving me broke. So and I know that when we go eat to places in going to be the one paying for her food and everything. But the thing that really bothers me is that my mom does a lot for my brother and he couldn’t even say “here mom $100 have some money so you can get yourself something for the trip. RIGHt!? Like idk how to tell my brother that he can also help me out with her expenses. Am I wrong ?? I just feel very overwhelmed because all those expenses are on me only. And he looked at me like yea so we need half the money for the rental car☺️. When he also knows I’ve been struggling because my car broke unexpectedly. The trip was already planned. But my car breaking wasn’t 😞😞. So am I wrong if I tell my brother he can help with some of my moms expenses too? Or idk but I’m crying because I’m overwhelmed. She’s my mother and I love her, it doesn’t bother me to buy her things. I just can’t afford to buy her all that right now😣
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Like, yes I’m paying for me and my moms room already at the hotel and I know I’m going to pay for her foood, and drinks. Like why can’t my brother help out too if it’s his mom too, he’s telling me to buy her clothes and shoes and I’m like ?????????
Replyi understand where you are coming from, and he is making you go half with EVERYTHING. so although you may not want to say something you need to! he is obviously perfectly fine asking you to pay for different things, and now its his turn!
ReplyLike I understand he pays most of the rent and I think that because he is giving my mom a place to live and pays her phone bill. He can’t treat here here and there? Like what? My mom watches his son during online classes and cleans and cooks. Things that his wife doesn’t do either. So the way I see it is if he was thankful for what my mom does he would also treat her with a pair of shoes or something. Just because he gives her a place to live doesn’t mean my mom is just my full responsibility.
ReplyNo more trips?😁 it’s a nice gesture but really unnecessary
ReplyY’all are supposed to be saving money. Especially for the winter, and who knows if there’ll be another grocery panic
ReplyThe thing is, we booked the hotel since the beginning of the year and it’s no refunds if we cancel. But yes no more trips after this😔 because apparently it’s JUsSt MY MOM.
ReplyYou are right. Tell your brother that you are paying for your car and you won't be used. If he wants his mum to have new clothes he can at least pay for them. Only offer what you can afford towards the rental car and if he doesn't like it too bad for him. Surely your mother can take the clothes she has. I have never heard of anyone ever having new clothes for a trip. Is your mum going to meet royalty? Or does she dress in rags? Everyone else in the world packs the clothes that they already have and take them.
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