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Male, 24, Single since birth
Usually shy and have no game
I started using bumble April to meet people and past time. I matched with someone nice and we've been talking ever since. There used to be some chemistry, but i think we're more like friends now. She's become like support system if that makes sense. We talk about work, fitness, and movies/series. Since everything is happening online, I don't know how she feels or views the relationship. Does she see me as a friend or does she see me as a potential partner? I also feel the match has expired. It's been months and we're not really "deepening" the relationship. I'm not even sure if we're just replying to each other out of curtesy. I don't want to hurt her and ghost her. I son't want to miss a potential match. Maybe we do meet after the quarantine and everything clicks. I don't know and I don't think anyone knows.
Recently, I've matched with a new girl. We've been talking a lot and I enjoy her conversation. I'm weak and a part feels bad I am talking or interested in both of them. This matched asked me if I was talking or interested in anyone. I was honest and told her about the previous match. I know she felt bad. I didn't want to lie or anything.
Now, I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Is there a win win situation here?
I'm not at all a catch and I know this a happy problem or something similar to that. But, I just don't want to do in these kinds of situation. Again, I'm 24 and single since birth. Hope to get advice
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Don’t make it complicated. Make up your mind. One thing I learned, choose the one who chooses you :) don’t feel guilty! They might just playing. Just enjoy it and let it happen. Trust me! Don’t pressure yourself.
ReplyI'm going to tell you something and it may not be easy to take.
You're going to match with people throughout your life, you're going to get real close to people.
Some times you'll get so close to them that they know your desires, your secrets, everything.
But that doesn't neccesarily mean that they're the one for you.
Have some patience, don't get ahead of yourself in any predictament.
Balance yourself, and maybe it's not best to talk to 2 girls at once, most women don't like that.
If it happens, it happens but try not to ruin your chances at finding real love especially if you're trying to meet girls online, because maybe the one for you isn't online. Know what I mean. Goodluck man
ReplyHi anon,
As a woman myself, I'd prefer a straightforward an honest answer. if you can only see the former girl as a friend, then just be honest. if you are too shy to ask her how she feels about you, then you can prolly try ending your conversation with her with words like "Thank you for today. I appreciate our friendship" and see how she reacts. She might be friendzoning you too since women do that all the time.
If you are interested in the second girl, just be honest. Don't think too much. Just makeup your mind. we dont really like it when men act 'considerate', refusing to do some thing bcoz you guys dont wanna hurt us, but ended up hurting us real bad bcoz of your dishonesty and indecisiveness.
ReplyOkay from experience I know how these dating apps work so I would recommend you finding a different way to connect with females I myself waited till I was 21 to find a man, eventually when you do they turn out to be complete arse holes, trust the process.
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