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Hi,
I really need some advice about driving. I am 19 and my parents really want me to learn driving before I go to university. I will be going around Jan 2021 to uni. 2.3 months ago, I got my leaner's permit and I had started driving lesson with an instructor. I signed up for 10 lessons and so far I had taken 5 lessons (1 lesson per week) and it's really bad. I developed a lot more anxiety than I did in the past, my confidence is really crushed. I could not handle it so my counsellor suggested that I take a break on driving to focus more on driving. I discussed wit my parents and we agreed I will resume when I finish my exams. Currently, I am very nervous as the term is coming to an end , exams are soon coming up and I will have to resume driving soon. I am very scared, I just don't want to hurt anyone. I've been told by my instructor that I haven't improved a lot in those 5 lessons and I can't really practice outside the driving lessons as I am a full time student, my parents are always busy with work and I am anxious to drive with my parents (my relationship with my parents is not great, they always fight and I got depression over time). With studies, anxiety, depression hitting me I am not able to drive well and I don't know what to do. I am worried to resume my driving lesson because I don't know why I don't really like my driving instructor, she once brought me in the main road when I was clearly not ready, she gets frustrated in all the 5 previous lessons, she once yelled at me. One day it was so bad, I got so embarrassed, I tried to keep quite, suck it up but I couldn't I kinda started crying in front of her. I really don't know what to do, I can't even change instructor because she is the only one for automatic cars. I have started doubting if I really want to drive or not. I don't know what to do. I am trying to make myself just suck it up for the next 5 lessons but I can't I'm just too weak now .
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I mean I am not angry at my driving instructor to be frustrated with me all the time, it's obviously my fault if I don't practice but I get very anxious when I'm with her. I get nervous easily around people, anyone even my own family .
Replycan you get your money back and try another driving school? is there another adult you trust that could help you practice? it's also okay to just say no. you don't have to learn to drive, and you don't have to learn before you go away to school. you're wise to not want to be behind the wheel when you're feeling anxious and not learning well--better to hold your ground than cave to your parents and teacher and then cause an accident. it also sounds like the teacher is not a good match for you.
my guess is, if you say no now, it'll suck dealing with your parents for a while (but those issues would have come up around something else anyway), and then you will eventually learn to drive when YOU are ready and want to, and when you've found someone who you trust who can teach you.
ReplyI really don't know if I want to continue driving. Is it ok to just suck it up and do the rest of the 5 lessons and that's it. It might mess me up a bit but yea , I am not sure we can get a refund and in my area, it's the only driving school there is. The others are pretty far in the city.
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