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I’ll make it short. I need to find a way to stop overthinking and over analyzing everything. My biggest problem is the reaction people may have on something I may say or do even when there’s nothing actually wrong about it, I tend to regret what I said or done and think that I’m annoying and it actually happened today. I’ve been thinking about the answer I got from a message I sent all day and I’ve been feeling this way for a couple of days. Hopefully I stayed very calm but I feel embarrassed and stupid for what I said and now I cant answer that message and I’m scared to even think about texting that person again. I would just like to learn how to accept that that’s who I am, that I can be very impulsive sometimes, and I am always respectful of others and I can’t really control what other people may act or say to me.
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ReplyI'm sure it's hell, but there are careers that your qualities are perfect for. Have you thought about using these traits to your advantage? Your (over-)analytical tendencies make perfect for something in the research field, banking, or even being a surgeon. Careers that require perfectionism. I guess that would go along the lines of learning to accept who you are, but with a positive spin.
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ReplyTry to realize that while you are over thinking everything you say and getting embarrassed about it, no one else is over analyzing your actions as much as you are. I struggle with this too by oversharing and then wanting to curl up and never be seen again, but people are so caught up in their own worlds that I promise people don't care as much as you might think they do
ReplyI feel very similarly to you (I think). I am so scared of other people judgement, and can never tell anyone about the things I like. I regret the things I say and the way I say them, even though they are never bad or controversial. Ill regret making a joke if not everyone laughed. Although, I have just learned that there are people that will judge us everywhere, and that there is no way to escape them. However, the one place of judgement that we can escape is our own judgement. Find a way to accept yourself for who you are, because you are not annoying, and you cannot regret the things you say and do.
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