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My seven-year-old sister got diagnosed with cancer last month. Since then, she's begun chemotherapy and lost her hair. But my problem is in the fact that my parents give her everything she wants. My parents are very controlling and strict, and will send me to bed whenever they feel like it. I'm not allowed to date, use electronics for anything other than school or calling my mom, and I don't have a phone. Really, I'm not even supposed to be on here. I'm sixteen and get like no privileges. Now, my sister knows how to play my parents, and has even been honest about it and said that she was. She always makes sure to ask to eat right when she is getting sent to bed, so then she stays up until my parents go to bed. I have only just this past year been allowed to do that (sometimes) and I feel like it's not fair to me. I tried to tell my mom, but she looked at me angrily and said "do you have cancer?" and when I said no, she said that it was fair. I do dishes and take out the trash and sweep the floor. I take care of our pets and I babysit all the time. I have watched my siblings for days at a time, with my parents only coming home at night, and I am able to feed my siblings all three meals. I get good grades and take college classes. But none of this is enough, because I don't have cancer. I love my sister and parents, but this really hurts. Am I just complaining or is this valid?
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Your not complaining, but talk to your parents. It's not really fair. They shouldn't be this strict. :)
ReplyWow really your parents treat you like that? Your feelings are valid. Have they never heard the saying all work and no play makes jack a dull boy? You deserve more freedom rewards for good grades etc. I can understand them letting your sister do anything she wants but treating you like a prisoner is not right. My cousin was that strict to his son. Once in high school and after he rebelled got into drugs theft and spent lots of prison time. If you're too strict it causes rebellion. Keep telling them how you feel.
ReplyShe has cancer and that's why they are so worried about her. But it is true that that shouldn't mean you can't have privileges too. You're not complaining and it's totally understandable.
ReplyI think that your feelings are valid, and I am so sorry that your parents put so much responsibility on you at such a young age. You sound very intelligent, so I believe that you can vocalize how you are feeling without seeming insensitive to your sisters situation. Write out your feelings, and Maybe call a family meeting. Hope this helps
ReplyWhenever a child has a terrible disease the child becomes the parent's number one priority and the other children are left on the way side so to speak. This is human nature. If in the future you have a very ill child you will do the same. You must understand that your parents don't know how much time they will have with her. I hope she does recover and your life goes back to normal.
Replyyou dont need to have cancer to be treated like a human with rights.
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