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I'm a new adult who've been raised in a conservative family in a developing country where everybody has certain roles ,being a female ,I've been constantly closed- off from the society and I'm not allowed to talk or to interact with boys. Due to this lock-down I'm staying in home 24/7 and don't have any sort of contact with the outside, my parents don't allow me even to take walks outside saying its not safe for girls. I've been expected to dress a certain way ,like my parents tell me cover myself up and that I shouldn't expose myself. Its not like I'm walking in swimsuit , I live in a tropical country it gets very hot but still I'm not allowed to wear shorts in summer saying it inappropriate I'm forced to sit with my legs crossed , I cant laugh loud in public or even at home and I cant argue with my parents even if I have a valid point( I think that's what most parents do lol). My parents talk so bad about women in media calling out to them its shameful to sell their body for media fame and money, they said a model women should get married just be a house wife and take care of her family. But this gets me annoyed, at least those women achieve fame and live their life with their control they are not constantly being told what to do , what to wear or what to cook. Being a home maker is not easy but I don't understand why is it ideal why cant women make their own decisions like in life and career being in MEDIA or STEM shouldn't bother, both of them treated with same respect.
I'm honestly so confused many people talk about feminist's but my family and parents say they are overrated and a female cant survive in the society with male's help is it true like, does every women need a guy just to survive and protect. when I searched for successful women and told my parents there are women who live alone and be successful, they told me its due to their parents wealth. And my parents told sports and dancing are not for me because I'm form a respected family. But luckily I loved STEM and decided to do engineering this also made them unhappy saying its a man field they wanted me to be a doctor but my biology scores were low so they let me study engineering. I really cant wrap my head around a being a proper girl or women thing like why am I expected to fit many categories just to be treated with respect. Shouldn't human beings treat each other with respect isn't that what humanity is?
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This sounds like your parents have come from a non western culture and they expect you to be like them. But you live in a western culture where you see a different way of life especially for women. It is hard being torn between two cultures.
I have always been with the western culture but when I was young women did stay home as home makers where they cooked and cleaned and looked after their kids while their husbands went out to work. In those days there were very few divorces, the majority of couples stayed together for life. So I see your parent's point.
But now women don't want to be held back from using their full potential. They now tell their husbands what to do and with the both of them working the man has lost his position as head of the house. Years ago the wives had respect for their husbands and now that is gone. Divorces are rampant like it is the fashion. However, what if you be a stay at home wife and run a business from your home. You can do a business course and make and sell things from your home on the internet especially with this covid around. If you need money to set yourself up ask your parents for it because after all they want you to be a stay at home wife. Then hopefully you can all be happy.
ReplyI’m sorry that your parents are so strict. Just know that there’s nothing wrong with your body. You are beautiful and can do whatever you want when you move out. 💙
Replyi so understand you
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