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what my mind has done is erase memories and feeling, for example i just broke up with my best friend — i have officially 0 friends. i’ve known her since i was 15, i’m 19. but when i now think of her, i feel nothing , no sadness, or anger or happiness of passed memories — matter a fact i can barley remember anything we shared. i think my mind has a coping mechanism to move on when people leave, to erase everything completely. as if i’ve never known them at all.
any thoughts on this? is it a coping mechanism? is there something more?
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Does your mind unconsciously do it? If it does, it's not coping mechanism, but defense mechanism. I couldn't say more cause that's what I only know. Try to search about defense mechanism if you want to know more, I'm no professional 😅
Replymy mind does unconsciously do it, it almost feels like i have amnesia — i simply forget. i get that it’s probably a defence machoism since i’ve been through this situation of someone leaving and losing friends many times. it’s like it’s easier to be alone this time, instead of feeling miserable like before.
ReplyWhy is my comment being reviewed? Novni, what is your problem :(
ReplyI think novni has a pretty big list of words that auto trigger a comment review. If your comment disappeared as soon as you posted it, that's probably what happened. Of course in some cases it's a troll but let's hope not.
ReplyI think you have a rare gift. My mother is the same way: she literally forgets anyone & anything that upsets her. Growing up with this, I was infuriated because it felt like she invalidated a lot of the family's pain. But now that I am older I realize that it's an amazing skill and it's probably the only reason why she's the 1 functioning member of the family left.
So I think you should use this coping mechanism whenever needed. But I'll also say, be careful because this will cause a lot of distress to the people close to you (family, partner, and especially children if you decide to have them). It's a self preservation mechanism, so in that sense it's kinda "selfish" but if you're alone with no one who will be hurt, it's a dream come true. I wish I had it.
Replythank you so much for this, this helped a lot in a sense that i can see differently. i would agree that this is a gift since i don’t have to worry about a loss one anymore as it’s easier to move on.
ReplyWAIT ME TOO LMAO howEVER i do remember the times we shared :]
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