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What should I do?
Me: Got depressed
Me: Quit social media and isolate myself cuz of depression
Me: Tells dad that I quit social media and deleted all my phone contacts and isolating
Dad: Good job
Me: 2 years later...Gets cured of depression
Me: Feels lonely and makes new real-life friends
Me: Tells dad that I wanna use social media again
Dad: Don't use social media until you graduate high school. Promise?
Me: Ok, I promise
Me: Graduates high school
Me: Asks dad if I can start using social media now
Dad: No, you could live without it until now, so why do you wanna start it again?
Me: But you promised that you'll let me use social media once I graduate high school!
Dad: So you're arguing with me? I said no
Me: **Stays quiet**
Me: 10 months later **Wants to use social media again but scared of dad finding out**
Dad: Proudly tells all his friends that I'm not allowed to use social media
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What's the best and moral thing to do here? I want to start using it again because I feel like I don't grow as a person when I have no social media. I wanna start using it again but then I'll feel guilty for betraying my dad. Do I have the right to use it again? My dad is changing his words and not keeping his promise but I kept mine. I need to grow more as a person again and keep learning. I really want to use it. I have never been addicted to it, but I just love interacting with people and getting wiser.
**My use of social media is never posting pictures. It's mainly politics, religion, memes, life quotes, and deep, meaningful interactions with 50 year olds in groups and communities**
I'm not asking "Should I start using it again?" I mean to ask "If I start using social media again, should I feel guilty for disobeying my dad? Is it moral?"
What's the moral choice here?
My only current real life friend says that I need social media because that's the only way the modern world works. I'm not even allowed to have twitter or watch the news because I'm supposed to only study.
Like...Balance is the key. I can't die like this.
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you are old enough to make youre own decisions now and im not saying to start disrepecting your dad but just do what you think is better for YOU, sometimes when you spend to much time on there you can get distracted and depressed so be careful with what you do and think. love youu
Replybalance is the key?? can’t die like this?😁 maybe you do need social media. it’s his fault anyway for bragging about his parenting.
ReplyI think you made your own case brilliantly: "I need to grow more as a person again and keep learning. I really want to use it. I have never been addicted to it, but I just love interacting with people and getting wiser."
Try explaining this to your dad. Tell him social media isn't just a bunch of kids posting dumb selfies. It's a legitimate way of interacting with the human race using the new technology. What you make of it, good or bad, is a reflection of who you are. And it sounds like you want to use it to expand your knowledge of the world.
Unfortunately your dad sounds pretty stubborn (if not outright dishonest, by breaking his promise over & over). But try your best to reason with him without pointing out what a jerk he's being. In my experience, I've noticed people like that get defensive if you point out the errors in their judgment. So try to convince him the nice way first. If he still refuses, go ahead and do it anyway. That's when you can point out how many times he broke his promises and HE's the one who's teaching you poor values, not social media!
ReplyPS. I also want to mention it sounds like he's got a bit of insecurity going on - the way he has to brag to his friends about how he controls you. I'm guessing you're 18 now, so you're technically an adult and he doesn't own you. But it sounds like he's grasping onto that for whatever reasons. Be careful trying to reason with someone like that. You might have to treat him like a child.
ReplyI think you should explain it to ur dad that all your friends use it and you also need it to interact with them .. and I don't think that it would be any sort of betrayal you are just using it as a source of interaction which is totally understandable since during COVID 19 that was the only thing ppl had to do or else they were feeling lonely and isolated which is exactly happening with you .. just make sure to be safe while using it as not every person you'll meet have same good intentions as you and try not getting addicted either & try not taking things on social media way too seriously and don't start feeling bad after comparing your life with other person's social media life because most of the time everything is fake over there you would only see the good things which those people want to show other ppl that they are out there living their best life but all of those are lies so don't get influenced by any of it ..
Stay strong, good luck 💜
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