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He messages me every few days or sometimes daily I believe to check if I’ve blocked his number.
I cut him off due to the fact he wasn’t there for me when I needed him and that’s something I genuinely can not forgive.
I miss him and think of him a lot due to the fact we’ve been through so much together. I find myself tempted to respond, it’s been just over a week, going on two.. I’ve had no contact. I know it was the right decision to make but I can’t help how I feel.. I’m not one to normally develop strong feelings for someone 😪
I’ve actually tried speaking to other guys through apps, considered getting to know new people.. take my mind off him and general boredom. That was a flop. I’ve since deactivated my accounts and have no plan on returning.
Anyone going through anything similar?
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Yeah almost similar but the only way to get awayy from this is start loving yourself .after having an year of break up i m still there buttt the fact is now i am happy
ReplyI wouldn’t even know where to begin 😂 but thanks & it’s real good to hear you’re happy now though
ReplyI went through something similar with my ex a bit over a year ago. After we broke up, I deleted my fb page and blocked her number.
I wanted to call, badly. Even after her condescending comments towards me, even after finding out she had stolen almost $800 from me.
I tried to do the same as you, tried to find someone new about a month and a half in to the break up. Didn't go so well.
Ive been single since, I keep telling myself that it's not by choice but honestly I have spent the last year just avoiding putting myself in that position again.
I may eventually get back into dating at some point in the near future, but for the moment it's just trying to fix the damage inside that was left behind.
Having struggled with depression all my life, the fact that I let my guard down and still got hurt was rather jarring. So I'm still trying to figure out how to forgive myself for not paying attention to red flags.
I can admit my faults in all of that, I don't harbor any hatred for her or what she did. She did it because I allowed it, I didn't set boundaries.
The reason I say all of this is because maybe there was some lesson you need to learn. Maybe you trusted to quickly like I did, or maybe you ignored things that should've been red flags.
Though I will say this, you gotta be willing to say that what he did was his and his alone. It's not a reflection on anyone else.
Above all, acknowledge what you're feeling and that it's ok. Those feelings aren't wrong. You tried to be open and one person decided it wasn't what they wanted. That's all. There's someone out there who would love to have someone be open and actually available with them and will be willing to offer the same in return.
You're not alone in your heartache, nor are you alone in your search for something that feels like home. A pair of arms to wrap around, a pair of eyes to get lost in. There are those of us who desire a soul felt connection.
ReplyGod I relate to you so much! I ignored so many flags and I didn’t realise I was teaching him how to treat me. I really let myself down. You ever heard of the saying “who don’t hear, must feel”. I sure did feel 😭
I’m really sorry that you went through all of that, depression is a nightmare itself! Hope you’re better now though!
Yeah I’m definitely not ready nor interested in dating right now. Really just need to focus on myself and get to where I want to be. You’ve helped a lot, thank you so much!
ReplyJust remember, self love is just like any other language. Keep practicing and growing, it's perfectly ok to take some me time.
As for myself, I'm getting there. One step at a time.
Just don't drown yourself in sweets or carbs. Try to make goals and reward yourself with things that encourage further progress.
If you're into art, you might reward yourself with some new utensils or themes you haven't tried.
If you've been working out, try some rewards that'll help make it a bit more comfortable like a new pair of shoes or a outfit.
Things like that, to help you on your way to discovering what you truly want and what areas need some work.
I've got tons of tips I can offer, so if you're struggling with anything, don't be afraid to ask. You'll get there, but for now give yourself permission to feel the loss.
I hope harmony will shine on you and help mend the pain.
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