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Help a guy out here.
How can I approach you? Like how do you as an individual female human, like to be approached? What can I do to make sure it's a good approach and not crazy.
I'm really socially not as developed as other guys. And if even one girl answers this in a helpful way, I feel like it could really change my life.
Ps. I'm not interested in learning pick-up. I just want to be normal and not awkward all the time.
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haha, this was interesting reading. I am a girl, yes. I always wondered what it must feel like for a guy to approach a girl. This question might be difficult because girls are into different things. Hmm if we're talking from a personal prospective, that's GOOD. So, I mean, I guess I would like to be approached by a dude who is nice with his actions. lol i think it's normal to be awkward around others it's totally normal. Just try your best to be yourself because that's what girls really like, also be confident in yourself. :] take any chance you got! (I hope this helps :]
ReplyI like your sincerity. But unfortunately, there's no "one size fits all" answer. That would depend on the individual female.
The absolute best advice I can give you when it comes to dealing with females in general is simply: be a gentleman.
Im not saying you have to roll around in a tux pretending to be 007 or the like.
Im saying:
Hold doors open
Compliment something about her *if you actually like it!* Example: I really like your hair, scarf, dress, tshirt, shoes, whatever. Women love GENUINE compliments delivered in a simple, sincere observational way. Instead of the "im just looking for an exscuse to talk to you while I snap a mental pic for my spank-bank as I undress you with my eyes" predator style most men adopt.
Be considerate. Courteous. Polite. Keep your distance, but be friendly. Smile with your eyes.
I got an instant crush on a total stranger once just because he offered to take my cart back to the corral for me at the grocery store🤣
We just want what anybody wants- for people to be nice to us.
Many of us love shy guys. But! We won't make the first move. So you have to be a little bold, but not overly so or you'll come off creepy.
Honestly, just being a gentleman will open a lot of doors for them, and you.
I hope this helps! Good luck!😊
ReplyI've tried that. alot of women in my area are just bitches (not op here). They preferred crap treatment bad attitudes over that. I've probably met the wrong type. They appear to look at being a gentleman as weak and boring etc. If you're not a big Billy badass it's like ooh SORRY youre not my type. (And I am a shy person FYI and have been a perfect gentleman to women.) They just threw me away like trash. So bleh dating scene is not for me anymore. I mean i would go to the fucking moon and back for a woman I love. But if they wouldn't walk through a puddle for me when if go into a river for them there's just no point
ReplyI don't know how old are you but I'm sure you have time to meet the right woman, maybe they're not looking for a serious relationship and you want a serious one where you both love each other and would sacrifice lots of things for each other's sake, but there are woman who'd appreciate your efforts and treatment
ReplySo i got my sister's reply to this as well as my own
My sister: the most important thing is being nice, and look out for common intrests ( for example if you like reading and you saw a girl at a library ask her about her favorite book and stuff like that...) she says that approaching a girl with sole purpose of dating in mind might make the way you act too forward, so it's best to make your goal being friends with her, and if it's meant to be it comes naturally.
So now mine : so mine will be a bunch of unsorted thoughts but I'll do my best : i really like the thing my sister said about the common interests thing, it's nice, and just as my sister said, I'd like to be friends with the person before thinking if i like them or not, I personally would like to know about them more, their interests, their feelings towards stuff, their goals....
As an introvert I'd like people to approach me first, maybe if I'm sitting at my desk and someone talked to me I'd be happy with it, but this is risky if you're not good at talking (just like me :') but it's ok you don't have to do that), I'm not really picky with my friends so I don't have a single type, but i think that you should be nice try to ask me about my interests and don't forget to tell me about yours, make me feel that you trust me...
I don't know i feel that my sister said more useful things, i hope things turn out good for you
ReplyHonestly, I can see how this might be a difficult question but girls actually like a little bit of awkwardness because it makes it easy to understand that you aren't like those guys who walk up to us demanding our attention and wanting our bodies and nothing more. But just walking up to a girl you think is pretty and nice looking and telling her those things respectfully, but with enough confidence that they dont think they can run over you. Have a personality, backbone, feelings, and respect and you'll be able to talk to most girls without an issue. :)
ReplyIn my opinion, I like those guys who are sweet and shy. I like when they are clumsy and they are themselves. A gentleman who opens doors and compliments you on the smallest things. Don't try to talk to the other girls if you want one girls attention. You need to be someone they can depend on, a shoulder to cry on. Like a pillow. Be yourself but don't be a jerk( Not saying you are one). It really depends on the girl though. Every girl is different so some might want a guy who is rude or just a player. I'm not saying you should go that way. If she makes you smile all the time and you do the same for her. Then you don't need to be someone your not. She already likes you for you. I hope this helps :)
ReplyJust walk up to her and say, "Hi, how are you doing? My name is *whatever our name is* and I wanted to know if you'd be interested in hanging out some time to get to know me better?" Something like that. Actually, It really depends on what kind of person you are. However you do it, good luck!
ReplyI'm a girl who's in middle school, and absolutely boy-crazy. I'm that one kid who instantly develops a crush on someone if they show the slightest sign of interest or kindness. I'm really into people who are very carefree with others but showing that you're more awkward/nervous/polite with the girl you like can really help. My biggest crushes have been developed because I've hinted they liked me first, so yeah. Good luck!
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