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Perspective is everything. We each have different ones because of our experiences. There are good perspectives, that lead to a fulfilling life, and not so good ones, that lead to regret and darkness.
Is there a "right" perspective on life? No. This is why people are successful in different ways. This is why people think differently and act differently, this is why conflict exists.
I would like to share my perspective on life. In my opinion, success is not determined by what outcome, but by what you can do to change the outcome and how you react to it. Let me explain.
In the city of Cyprus in 300 bc, there lived a very wealthy trader called Zeno.
While on a voyage from Phoenicia to Pareas, his boat sink along with all of his cargo. Because of that single event, an event that was entirely out of zeno's or anyone's control, this very wealthy man suddenly became poor in an instant.
Imagine you were Zeno. How would you react to your entire life's work getting flushed down the drain by the sheer force of nature? Sad, mad, maybe as if life had cheated you. However, Zeno focused on maintaining his composure over the situation, remaining calm and neutral despite his predicament.
Although we don't have much control over what happens to us, we do have control of
how it affects us and we must use this control to great effect rather than crying over spilled milk. In a world full of unexpected turns of events, our emotions can tend to get in the way of things. See, we don't get sad because bad things happen to us, we get sad because unexpected bad things happen to us.
We should instead focus on improving ourselves, for ourselves. We should do things for ourselves and only for that reason. Attaching any external hope or secondary attachments to the actions we take almost always leads to disappointment.
Most of the time we end up trying to fulfill that emptiness with external things, blowing all your money on a fancy car, a house, or even starting a family. Sometimes we do
all of these things for their external value. And not their internal value, but if you approach life this way, you place your happiness in the hands of external forces.
Forces that can always fail. Cars almost always break down. Natural disasters wipe away entire cities and divorce rates climb higher and higher each year.
Instead, keep a cool head regardless of what life throws at you. Because regardless of what it is we want, at the end of the day, we don't have any control over the majority of things that happen to us. We do have all the control over how we react to those things.
By redirecting our definition of value to the things that we can control, we can stop getting fixated on the things we cannot control and overall we can lead a much happier and more fulfilling life.
"What need is there to weep over parts of life, when the whole of it calls for tears"
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