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When you think about getting married you think it’s all going to be perfect. Its all going to work out the way you want it to. But you don’t always take into account the other person and how they are going to settle into things and possibly change, or not change. Things you think will “get better” may not, and things you think “will change” also may not. But you decide to marry this person because things are good. They are what you think you want and can deal with long term in a relationship, so you go for it. Besides, you’re in your mid thirties and there’s no more time to waste really. And you do REALLY love this person. For real. And if you want a family, and this person does too, then what are you waiting for? So you go for it. And you’re happy about it. But I’m a woman in my mid thirties. I’m in my prime sexual years. And I’ve always known I was a very sexual woman. I want sex. I want it often. And I dream about it with other people all the time. But I would be satisfied with my husband... if I got it enough. But what is enough? It’s different for everyone. I want it every day. I would like to have sex every day. Or at least every other day. But I don’t know what normal. Is that a normal amount? And are my sexual desires... abnormal? To want to have explorative, different ventures and try new things? Is that normal? Or should I be w with our routine? I mean, our routine isn’t bad. I still get to orgasm regularly... even more than once when we have sex usually. But if we only have sex once or twice a week, that’s just not enough for me. But as a woman, I’ve always been told I should be pleased with that. So why do I crave more? Why isn’t it enough? I get enough emotionally. But physically, I still want more. And yet there is a side of me that thinks, oh, you should be happy with what you get... but still I want more! I want to cum every day. I want to orgasm all the time. I know it comes easy for me, and I can do it myself, but I feel salacious in my desires and I just wish I had a partner who wanted the same and wanted to fulfill those needs! I do ask. I bring it up, but I get “I’m not in the mood” or “I’m too tired”. And there’s nothing I can do with that. I can’t change your mind.
I’ve asked about an open relationship. If that was something we could ever consider as a couple. Because I would obviously be open to it. And not just for me. I’m not a jealous woman. Quite the opposite. I would be very turned on to see him with another woman. To see another woman want MY man would be sexy as hell. So it’s hard for me to understand jealousy. I can’t imagine that he wouldn’t feel the same way by seeing another man turned on by me. And I’m not an unattractive woman. I’m a curvy, fiery, redhead with large tits and a small waist. But I want it all. I want the happy family life, but I also want the hot sex, can’t live without you desire, and the lustful late nights. But I have to choose. And I feel like I can only choose one. And the first one is the only option I’m really being given. What do I do? I really want answers. I’ve never been unfaithful, and I don’t want to be. But I also don’t know how to be fully satisfied.
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I'm right there with ya on the desired frequency. That would be my dream scenario to be able to make love every single day. Though for the expressed purpose of procreation, daily is actually bad. More so for him than you, due to his production of swimmers.
Every 3 days is the optimal method but you also gotta time things right as well. Depends on your ovulation cycle and if yours starts 2 days after a period, or a week or anywhere in between.
During those 4 or 5 days, it's good to get in a bit of action. I might recommend really teasing him for the purpose of building up the tension, leads to larger explosions if you know what I mean. So about 3 days before your period stops is when he's 100% cut off from busting. That way he's got a fresh, ample supply of soldiers to send in and you simultaneously teasing him for those three days to really build it up.
Also, make sure you're both physically healthy. Good hydration helps his little men not only on his side, but also softens the mucus on your end. Making the adventure a bit smoother. Every bit helps, right?
Along with hydration you're also going to want to focus on high protein, low iron. So things like chicken, spinach, fish and other high protein foods. Steer clear of red meats like beef and also pork.
The dietary part can impact your success greatly, that's why I stress it.
Also, if either of you smoke or drink alchohol it's time to stop. At least for now. It's not a morality issue, smoking breaks down cellular structures like seamen and alchohol dehydrates the body, making body fluids thicker and harder to move through for his boys.
I won't touch on the "open partners" bit. I'm very much biased in that area so all I'll say is so long as you BOTH can not only agree to it but also actually uphold it, whatever floats your boat.
I know in my position, I wouldn't want to be spending any of my loads on anyone but you and I'd expect that same loyalty in return. But that's just me. For you, maybe it'll work, maybe it won't.
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