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This won't be a very long piece, I just need some insight and advice if possible. I feel like I am losing the girl that I have been talking to for a few months. She was the first girl I truly fell for in years and better yet she has feelings for me too, or i hope she still does. She came from a girls school and does not have many guy friends and I am the first guy according to her she feels safe and comfy with. Everything was going really well and I like to think things are still okay between us though she did note she was not ready for a relationship and we would take things slow which I promised we would work it out together. But being a serial overthinker I realised I am starting to over analyse and possibly overthink how she views me. We used to talk quite a fair bit throughout the day and was even planning to meet up again soon on the last day we met. However, due to my country's new covid restrictions we weren't able to meet again and it has been more than a month since I last saw her. We still talk and snap each other everyday but it is a bit worrying on my end because they are getting less frequent and it feels like she is losing interest in me. Now my country's restrictions are easing and I tried asking her out a few times but she would always be busy and even could hang with others but not me. I realise though she still checks up on me through text, voice recordings and our snaps and tells me about her day and some of her problems, she doesn't initiate to hang and now she has even told me she only replies school work related stuff in the day and will only check her personal messages at night even with her friends and even then she only replies one time and can be online again through the night but won't reply me again until the same time the next day unlike previously where she would talk to me a few times a day with stickers and in general sounding more excited talking to me. Sometimes she can still snap me back her gaming and stuffs but won't reply my whatsapps. My worry is more or less she is tryna avoid me or just losing interest in me though she has mentioned she wished we could hang soon the last time I asked her out. I even tried initiating to call online and watch netflix together like we used to in person but she does not acknowledge those parts and can even post on her stories and spam of her being online with others watching movies or gaming. I still send her messages telling her I am with her in spirit and basically being there for her which she used to acknowledge but now she won't say anything to those anymore when she replies. Thing also is we just been talking as usual and we never had any problems between us. Her texts feel less enthusiastic than before and all in all I know i am probably overthinking and she may still care for me the same way as my friends have told me things just slowing down between us but I miss those nights we could talk till the wee hours and holding her hand while we just enjoyed each other's company. I am also getting worried that she may have some problems she not telling me despite her saying I am the closest guy to her and I am one of the few she would tell her problems too which is less than 5 people. Wow this is the first time I have typed how I feel about the situation down and yeah just be as honest with me as possible with your opinions and stuff I would really appreciate it. If you made it this far, thanks for taking your time to read this.
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she did say she wanted to take things slow maybe she's realizing she may not be ready for a relationship buuuut I think the best thing you can do is ask her about it. not out right about her messaging habits but directly about how she's feeling about relationships. if she still wants to take it slow or not. I feel like asking her about her messaging habits might seem confrontational so that's why I suggest asking about your relationship directly. so it's clear. just let her know. ask her get your answer, and see from there whether good bad or great. good luck tho
ReplyThank you so much for the advice, tbh I don't think I am ready to ask that qn through text yet but i will work up the courage to do so or bring it up when we finally meet. Still I really appreciate you taking the time to read this and even with the advice it means a lot to me. Hope you have a good day and bless you <3
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