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Before I start, please be respectful. Thank you.
So, as you can already guess from the title, I like older men, rather than boys my age.
I can try to describe why, but in the end of the day it's just my personal preference.
It's something I look forward to in a relationship, because I like to believe that it has something deeply intimate and mature. I usually prefer it when a man is more experienced than me. So now my question:
How do I make myself noticeable to them?
I get that the maturity of them don't just go up to you, so how do you "send signals"?
So that's it! Thanks for reading this and thank you for your help, have a nice day!! :))
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How old are you? If you are under 18, and if a man in his 20s or 30s is "romantically" interested in you, he is trying to manipulate you. There's a reason why he can't be with someone his own age.
ReplyI‘m 19 :))
ReplyOkay. Once you are legally an adult and out of high school, dating someone older than you won't matter as much as it would if you were a minor. However, tread carefully. Age gaps can come with experience gaps and power differentials. Experience gaps can sometimes be helpful, as the more experienced partner can help you navigate situations and aspects of life that you have less experience with. The power differential, on the other hand, is more worrisome. If you are dating someone much older than you, and they turn out to be an a-hole, they could manipulate you into staying with them by saying things like, "*Sigh*, I always knew you were too immature for me!" or "Prove your maturity by doing [fill in the blank]."
ReplyHey this is a perfectly reasonable preference; women generally mature sooner than men intellectually so I’m sure you’re not finding your equal in boys your age. The only caveat is that there are some creepy guys out there who just want a physically younger girl so I would urge you to be on the lookout for creep signals. Obsessively asking for nudes or revealing pics should be an instant dealbreaker, as well as sexting and all that stuff. If you can dodge the creeps I don’t see why you can’t have a fulfilling relationship with a man older than you. You’re an adult so it’s not like you’re totally defenceless. As for meeting them I would suggest interest-oriented social groups, for example hiking clubs, book clubs or even activism. You’ll immediately find men who aren’t just scoping out the meat market if you know what I mean!
ReplyThat's called hypergamy. Young men are at the beginning of their potential, and older men are in their prime. You won't get a trip to Cabo from a junior college student. The way it's supposed to work is that we figure out how to spot potential, and help him reach it as a team.
If you want an older man - one who isn't keeping you as your sugar daddy - then it's simple. Grow older, age well, and gather life experience an older man can connect with.
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