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Hello there! I was curious about these things and the gender equality debate. So I made my own little "survey." You do not have to answer all these questions, or answer any at all. However, be aware that some may contain topics that may be triggering, like sexual assault, abuse, eating disorders, mental illness, suicide and self harm. Also, please do not be offended by these questions, and answer truthfully.
1. What is your gender?
2. What are some problems you think your gender faces? What about problems that the opposite gender faces?
3. Has someone ever told you or someone you know something sexist or treated you unfairly because of gender?
4. Have you or someone you know ever been sexually harrassed or catcalled in a public setting? If so, what was the gender of the person who harrassed you?
5. Have you or someone you know ever been sexually harrassed in a private setting, such as work, school, etc.? If so, what was the gender of the person who harrassed you?
6. Have you or someone you know ever been sexually assaulted before? If so, what was their gender and role in your life?
7. Have you or someone you know ever been abused (Emotionally, verbally, sexually, physically) before? If so, what was the abuser's gender and role in your life?
8. Have you or someone you know ever struggled with body image or eating disorders before? If so, what made you/them struggle with this?
9. Have you or someone you know ever struggled with mental illnesses or suicidal thoughts before? If so, what made you/them struggle with this?
10. Have you or someone you know ever attempted or commited suicide or self harm?
11. Have you ever been treated unfairly in a legal situation? Why do you think this was and what was the situation?
12. If you have spoken out on any of the above, was was the reaction of others?
13. Do you think your gender's problems are taken seriously by people around you?
14. What are your thoughts on the opposite gender?
15. Is there anything else you'd like to say on any of this?
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1. female with she/her pronouns <3
2. yes of course for both, but too many i want to say sooo <3
3. yes, female and gender fluid
4. YES, female and gender fluid
5. yes, female- gma, and gender fluid- friend
6. yes, female and gender fluid
(ikik these people have had multiple of the same things in common)
7. yes, dad- male, half-sister, female, etc
8. yes, society
9. yes, humans themselfs
10. yes
11. no
12. haven't spoken about it
13. no, i live in a place with fvcking rasict, sexitst, homophobic, etc, white ppl
(srry to all da whites out there (don't mean to be stereotyping)
14. don't really have a way to describe 'em, too open minded.
15. i hate america
-an american
Reply1. Female.
2. Problems females face are less pay than males. Being sexually abused by males.. Have males be nasty to them. Have males use them for sex when the female thinks she is in a loving relationship. Males think with their dicks when it comes to females. A problem that males face is being told what to do by females.
3. Yes.
4. Male.
5.Male and female.
6. I was raped by four or five guys. I forget now. They went to the same pub that I did and some other guy who I didn't know set me up.
7. Too many to name and remember.
8. No.
9. I overdosed because of the dreadful horrible mother I had. She pushed me to it.
10. Yes. Just answered this.
11. Yes. This was over a fence dispute. My side fence needed repairing which meant my neighbour and myself were supposed to go halves. He refused so I tried to take him to court. I got the paper with which to serve him from a man at the court house who spoke to me very nastily. I served my neighbour with the paper and when we were at the court house we were sent for mediation. The man who usually did the mediation had to go into the city and it was the nasty man who did it. He spoke to my neighbour nicely the whole time and spoke to me horribly. My nieghbour lied and said he didn't own the next door property and the nasty man believed him and made me out to be a liar. Then this nasty man decided that we shouldn't go to court as he believed that my neighbour didn't own the property. I ended up paying for the fence to be fixed! But my neighbour owned a petrol station and the man who ran it said he would get him for me. He had underground tanks put in and the lying owner (neighbour) had to pay for them! And on top of that he was caught selling drugs to a teen who nearly died because of the drugs. The neighbour got a huge fine and was left struggling for money. He is gone now. I wrote a letter to the court house telling them what happened at mediation and said I will never go there to mediation again. This is in Western Australia.
12. I spoke on the phone to the man who should have done the mediation and told him the same thing. His reaction was he was angry that I had trouble and proved the mediation process wrong.
13. I have no idea.
14. Nasty users. But they are probably like this because females are in charge now. Like they say. "The man is the head but the woman is the neck that controls the head." I won't be told what to do by any male.
15. No, I have said enough.
Reply1.🙍♀️
2.For my gender- people expect me to learn to do all the house chores just because am a woman and it isn't really same for the guys ..
For the opposite gender - there is pressure on them for supporting their family anyhow ..
( however I think it is changing somewhat these days)
3. Idk if it can be really considered as sexist ...so basically there is this thing in Hindu religion where you aren't supposed to like do the worship (Pooja) or go to the temple when you are on your period , as a teenager when I was told about that I literally felt so bad ...
4. Nope
5.Nope
6.Nope
7.I have been fat shamed..By my father and sisters
8.I have struggled with my body image alot and it wasn't because I was not happy with how I looked it was totally because the people around me were comparing my body with others and telling me that I am too big compared to other girls ..
9.Yes a female friend of mine did ... she was having anxiety, suicidal thoughts Reason- I can't tell ..
10. I have tried to do it but I just couldn't bring my self to do it .
11.Nope
12. I have with a really good friend and he was really supporting me and that made me feel really good .
13.If I talk about it with people who are really close to me they would really take it seriously but for others they just think that I am making fuss out of nothing.
14.Most of them are narrow minded but again not everyone of them .
15.I feel like women and men both have their own struggles so I wouldn't want to compare anyone's struggles with anyone else .
Reply1. Female (she/her)
2. Unequal expectations. Women under pressure to look after the family, stay home, housewife, be unambitious. Men expected to be the bread winner, high paying job, backbone of the family.
3. Lots of people make sexist jokes but generally I don't surround myself with people like that.
4. When I was 14, I was catcalled by a couple of boys while I was with my dad outside church. I was groped by my German exchange's dad when I was 12. I was harassed by three men while on my lunch break in the town centre. (Many more)
5. I was sent a request for nudes when I was 11 on kik. I was offered £10,000 a week to sleep with a man via instagram.
6. If we are talking rape then a friend of a friend (female). If we are talking any form of assault, I don't know a single woman my age who hasn't been and I know a couple of men who have too.
7. Yes, emotionally. She was my best friend (I thought)
8. I struggle with it but not to the point of having an eating disorder. I want to fit in so am hypercritical of myself. More recently, my mum called me fat every day for about a month until I confronted her about it.
9. I am currently starting therapy. I have experienced emotional manipulation and abuse most of my life and have also experienced other catalysts.
10. I am not suicidal but have wanted to self harm. I have managed to stop myself to this point but found myself with scissors in my hand the other day. I have two friends who have ended up in hospital (one attempted suicide, one cut too deep while self harming).
11. No
12. I have confronted some offenders. They are defensive and gaslight me. Other people I have told are always sympathetic but I am choosy about who I tell and what I say.
13. I think the wider population take my gender's problems seriously but my immediate family does not realise the extent of them and refuse to listen when I try to explain.
14. I don't discriminate based on gender. I base my opinions of people based on their personality as opposed to anything else. People are a case by case basis.
Reply1: I am female
2: We women are not taken seriously, people see us as some special species. Men are taken too seriously, they are just seen as robots
3: No, I've always been treated special because I'm female. Never treated rude or discriminated
4: Yes, all the time ever since I was born. I thought catcalling and harassment is normal until one day it happened with me and my cousin, she told me to not tell anyone at home or else we won't be allowed to go outside. The gender was male all the time
5: Yes, it was in the room by my cousins, the gender was mainly male, but 1 female as well
6: Yes, their gender was male.
7: Yes, all the physical and sexual abusers were male, but the mental and financial abusers were female. My mom was the role towards abusing my dad and vice versa
8: No
9: Yes, my dad, his poor finances and decision of dropping out of med school did
10: I used to self harm
11: No
12: I never did. But when I told my mom that the street beggar put his private part in mine with his clothes still on, she just told me to be quiet and not tell anyone
13: No, never
14: I fear men, but at the same time feel bad for them. I appreciate and fear their existence,both
15: No
Reply1. Female
2. Not too many these days but sometimes, at least for me, I get cut off by men when I try to speak...Also, some men expect us to not go to college and just stay home or think we cant do as much in the workforce. I think men face a lot of problems too though. They have a lot of family responsibilities and everyone kind of looks down on them these days for something they didn't pick but were born with, a y chromosome. Poor saps.
3. Yeah, I use to know a guy who said I couldn't be a surgeon because it was too much schooling for a WOMAN and needed to be their to take care of my future children. Jeez.
4. Yes. I've been catcalled by a couple guys, a couple gals. Gender doesn't really seem to matter on this topic. Though one time I was in the store and a girl cat called me and then FOLLOWED me through the store until my older sister had to scare her off. That was a bit scary...
5. See previous question
6. I actually kind of forgot about this until I read this question. Back in elementary, a random boy stuck his hand in my swimsuit at the pool and started to... well... anyway, its kinda a memory I try to avoid thinking too much about but since this anonymous I guess its fine to mention...
8. I.. I hate eating. I'm a foodie who absolutely hates eating. I've made myself vomit over it before and some days I skip eating all together. I never felt bad about my weight. My family and friends had always told me I was beautiful so I didn't question it... When I got into college, my roommate began to make small comments, telling me that I was a glutton, to stop inhaling my food, that I was fat, and if she ever weighed even close to as much as me that she would just kill herself. It was around that time that my curves began to look more like lumps. That I noticed how ugly I truely was...
12. Yes, I wanted to protect my brothers. they are all so good and gentlemen but are treated like trash because of their gender so I stood up for them but those around me said "sexism towards men isn't sexism, it's justice." That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Like its not sexism to treat people a certain way based on their gender? What?
13. Yes, I think if I complain people are usually on my side.
14. My thought on the opposite gender? What? They are people too and deserve all the same rights as me. They aren't above or below me. The only difference is organs.
15. Don't become sexist in your attempt not to be.
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