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Our world is merely a repeating existential crisis of the people, each generation is born blind to the atrocities of the previous, it’s through personal development our eyes are opened to the bleakness of this world, happiness is cultivated only by the remission of these feelings through personal connection, it is personal connections that drive me, seeing my friends smile in my presence lights a fire in me like no other. Oftentimes I feel underappreciated but maybe it is my lack of self appreciation, maybe it’s my own thoughts that betray me. At the end of the day I just want to make the world a better place and hopefully I’ll be happier as a result.
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I understand you. Imo. Humanity face “ repeating existential crisis of the people”- because of whats in our DNA. I cant explain fully because it will be lengthy. However, I can summarize it to we are programmed to think, respond in specific way. It is quite deceptive because it will feel natural and it will feel as if it is truly your emotions (when its just programmed to respond that way). No matter how much you develop, it is hard to completely reprogram. But being aware does help to respond more appropriately. Also, I wouldnt call it “ bleakness of this world” but rather “curse of human DNA.”
You feeling “underappreciated” is not from “ lack of self appreciation” but rather like you said “ it’s my own thoughts that betray me.” We are programmed to survive. It strongly believes in certain things. It believes it will enhance survival if you gain those things. One of them is desire to be loved, cared. If others dont do enough to fulfill your wants, it starts to think you are in the disadvantage, therefore think “ Oftentimes I feel underappreciated.” It will feels like you are owed those things, even though in reality you arent.
Its helpful to make your brain understand relationship’s standard goesnt go by yours but rather goes by preset standard. To you a,b,c, might be highest form care or appreciation you want to get when in reality c,d,e is best thing the other person is able to provide. The mind will feel happier if it recognizes and understands that getting c,d,e is amazing because to that person, it is the best form of reciprocating form of care. But mind can be stubborn at times and refuses to get anything else. Then best advice is to explain why its ok to not receive that kind of care often.
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