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Anyone has experience falling in love with a person who is 20 years older than you? If so, how are you guys now? Is there any happy ending for large age gap couples?
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I'm 35 and know a couple who have been together for 20 years--dating for 10 and married for 10. She is 42 and he is 63 (21 year gap). I've known them for a long time and have noticed that didn't make much difference when they were relatively young but once she started creeping into her 40s, the age gap put a strain on them. Two main reasons were because A.) she was hitting her "grown and confident" stage since her children were grown and wanted to go on adventures and do fun things like vacation, camping, road trips, etc. He, on the other hand was past all that and was slowing down. B.) she had just enough time to try for another baby and had baby fever BAD. Again, he was far past all that and it really took a toll on them. Even with all that history, she was extremely unhappy these last few years and I guess an age gap that large has an impact later on in life. That's all the first hand input I have.
Replyi had it. it doesn't work out.
ReplyI have no knowledge on age gap relationships but what I can say is, brain have bunch of stages. There is huge stage difference in 20 years. Beliefs are different, interests are different, energy is different. Its because you experience whole tons during 20 years. Im in 20s, know whole tons but I know when i am 40s, I will be unimaginably different. If older person is caring, understanding, know how to be patient and be bigger person, maybe it can work out. But if older person is stubborn, unwilling to compromise/sacrifice, doesnt know how to synch with other person’s mood and energy there will be huuge problems.
ReplyMy sister always loved the idea of being with an older man. She was careful though. And she found a loving husband who is much older than her. They are very happy. And I hope that they remain so. What you do changes whether or not a relationship will work out though. I don't think anything predetermines a relationship not working. But we as individuals are always tested by many things in life. And one of the biggest problems in any age gap relationship is the judgement from others. So if you are the type to let other people's opinions be more important to you than your own opinion, then this kind of relationship will probably be harder for you to stay ok in.
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