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I might be bisexual. Probably like 75% sure. 25% in denial.
That 25% is a mixture of my genuine uncertainty and fear from ruining my relationship with my family. We're catholic and my dad also sometimes makes comments under his breath about his disapproval to the lgbtq community. Honestly, now that I think about it if it weren't for fear of how they'd react, I might have come out as bisexual already.
But I just don't want to be wrong. Like what if I'm not bisexual? But I find women attractive. Bisexual, right? Man idk. I'm kinda scared to admit it myself.
I'll be watching a show or something and one of the actress' shows up and my heart flutters and I'll laugh and be like "aahha I'm for sure bisexual" but then when time passes and I sit down and reeeally think about it, I can't say it or more accurately, I'm too scared to admit it. I think that's why I keep jumping back and forth.
Admitting it means making it official and making it official means having to come out to my family. And I don't have the heart to hide something so big from them.
I'm even nervous to come out to my friends because again that means it's official. Or maybe i could just tell them that I'm confused. idk. Either way, they'd all be super supportive which is great. Maybe I'll talk to one of them, although its kinda late rn ah idk.
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It sounds like you’re bisexual. But religious conditioning can make you repress things over a long period of time, so it’s natural you would question it. Mandatory heterosexuality is a thing, which is more confusing if you’re not out and out gay IMO. There was no framework for bisexuality when I was growing up, literally you were gay and that was the exception and a big deal or you were straight and that was the norm. There’s more awareness now so I reckon you will even find Catholics who are LGBTQ affirming. Good luck.
ReplyWhy do you want to put a label on yourself even you do not know for certain. Do how you feel. You feel somthing for same sex so go for it, you do not so do not go for it.
ReplyFemale here. I understand this. It's natural to want to explore different layers of yourself. I think it's healthy to appreciate the beauty in all people. It's very rare for anyone to be completely black and white straight. I believe that everyone has a little bit of bisexuality within themselves. We admire each other and that's totally OK!
This is completely up to you. Don't let anyone influence your personal decisions. However, since you asked, I'll respond. This is just my personal opinion--you do what's best for you. I don't think it's necessary for your family to know that about you, especially if it can ruin the bond. I certainly would never dream of telling my dad about my romantic interests or sex life. I would be mortified. There are some things that parents just don't want to know about lol. I'm a mother (my son is 15) and we are very very close. We tell each other everything and have a very good bond. He's straight but if he ever came out to me, I would accept and love him no matter what. That being said, I really wouldn't want to know too much. Like, whatever he would have going on in his adult life would be his business. Since your family is openly against LGBT+, telling them about your sexuality is only setting your family unit up for disaster. They can't do anything constructive with that information and it would only make them uncomfortable because of their beliefs and general parent mindset. I would talk to your friends about personal matters and leave your family out of it. Again, that's just me. I mean this with total respect. I know I would be mortified if my mom knew who I REALLY was lol! My friends are my safe place.
ReplyHi! I relate!! Im bi (I guess but I'm not rlly into labels) and my dad is homophobic and my mom isn't. I'm not at all planning on ever telling either of them anything about my sexualilty lol. It's my business tbh and they really only need to know If I end up married to a woman. I agree that it would be good to confide in your friends. That may help you with accepting yourself more and being at peace with who you are. Just experiment and be who you are.
ReplyYou don't need to put a label on your sexuality if you're not sure about it... I am also bisexual and dating the most amazing girl rn but I'm not out to my family and honestly the thought scares me so I get where you're coming from
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