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1 year ago · 4 · Stress, +4


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i often believe that if i weren't born to my specific parents, i would be so much happier. i have become a vessel for my parents to relieve their youth through, and it is exhausting. i am not up to my standards, i am up to their standards, and their standards are so high up i feel like im suffocating. my parents are never proud of me, they are never happy with me, they never feel as if what i have done is enough. it is painful and suffocating to live with people who dont love me. people who have never loved me.

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  • No-Man · 1 year ago

    I can feel your feelings. I understand no one's parents are perfect, after all they are also humans having ups and downs in their lives. But they are the two people loving you the most in this world, making sacrifices for you sometimes, sometimes you making sacrifices for them.

    As you are getting younger, they are getting older. A time will come when you will be all alone in your life. So no bad, if you are in some parts of your life following their expectations.

    Love šŸ’›

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    Hah!! Yknow how low the chance is to meet a parents that wont make you hate your life? Its less than 10% success rate. Unless you are really lucky, even if it wasnt your parents you would still end up with bad parents.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 year ago

    I hear you, it is excruciating to not feel acceptance from the people you love. You should not be an outlet for your parents to let out their childhood trauma. Likely, they were never praised when they were growing up and are parenting you in the same broken way. It's very hard, but try to not take their poor parenting personally. They love you, they are inept and should not push their trauma on you, but they love you. It does not excuse their behavior towards you, and hopefully you can talk about it later when you are older and get more independence so they can know how they hurt you.

    The important thing now is that you are proud of yourself, that you impress yourself, and you reach the standards you set for yourself. Your accomplishments deserve to be celebrated. It is hard but when you stop trying to get your parent's approval and seek out your own you will be much happier. You are special and important and I am proud of you! Be proud of yourself for making it through everything you have and keep going! You will get out of this situation and the future will be bright. Good luck!

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  • LaLand · 1 year ago

    I know how you feel about this. I'm was living exactly like this but you know what got them to stop being the high standard thing? you should prove that what you want to achieve for your OWN future is a good choice for you and has good money and will make your life better and won't make any trouble for you and your future family because deep down they also want your future to be bright. What makes them this way is not just because they never get to do what they want to do when they were at your age but also because they thought if you live the life that they want to Iive while they are young then your future will be bright like what the wanted too. but if what I say never works then make them sit down and you talk and they listen, make sure they listen and make sure they understand what you are trying to say because a good discussion makes the job done.

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