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The truth about empaths
1 year ago · 1 · Empath, +2
empath can destroy a narcissist. However, it is challenging and takes active effort on part of an empath to break the vicious and dysfunctional cycle of the abuser (narcissist) and abusee (empath) relationship. Their relationship is imbalanced especially since a narcissist is driven to feed off compliments and love from an empath to feel good about themselves. Along with destroying them emotionally using their manipulation skills. It takes a while for an empath to come to this realization and even harder to step up and break this cycle. However, it is possible that an empath destroys a narcissist with a few self-awareness and interaction tricks in their dealing with a narcissist.
An empath refers to an individual who is sensitive and able to feel the emotional pain of other people. They can understand other people’s perspectives and are driven to help and heal them. Usually, they hold their partner’s feelings and help them process it together. However, with the narcissist, this does not go well as they let the empath be the sole holder of their painful emotions and feel that this is their right.
Narcissists are people with a hidden sense of insecurity. They try to overcompensate it by using their skills to get compliments and favors from other people so that their wounded self-ego can get inflated. Their need for admiration, self-importance, and sense of entitlement starts in early adulthood. They have difficulty empathizing with people. Usually, instead of owning their feelings, they project their insecurities on other people. They are aware when people withdraw their love and care from them due to their behavior. However, they know how to emotionally manipulate and get back the unauthentic love.
A narcissist feeds on compliments, money, and favors from other people. An empath is generous, kind, and trusting enough to provide all this to a narcissist who feeds off them and take their advantage.
The relationship between an empath and narcissist is unbalanced. It resembles a parasitic relationship. The narcissist is preoccupied with emotionally feeding off others to fulfill their egotistical needs. They use manipulation and control to you have the power in the relationship. Whereas the empath tries to heal the wounded narcissist but ends up becoming the powerless victim.
It is difficult for an empath to discover a narcissist and the fact that they are being used because their nature is to give love to other people unconditionally. They justify or give explanations to a narcissist’s reasons for doing cruel things. They even try to cure and help them but it does not happen. Since the narcissists are satisfied with who they are and do not want to change.
An empath has an underlying belief that if they can make a person who is unable to love, love them, they are truly worthy of love. In other words, they are driven to a narcissist to desperately receive validation. This is because during their childhood they were unable to receive unconditional love from their parents. So, they seek this validation from an unloving narcissist to restore their self-worth. The vicious cycle continues as an empath associates love with pain and continue to try to fix the narcissist and tolerates the abuse.
Such a dyadic relationship is dysfunctional but both partners are equally responsible for the imbalance. The empath needs to realize that they have to set boundaries and refuse to internalize the narcissist projected feelings of inferiority. They need to walk away instead of being walked over before it is too late.
An empath does not like to be the center of attention. However, he/she has self-esteem and self-awareness. They don’t need external validation from others, unlike narcissists. They have good observational and analytical skills due to which they can understand others. They have a good heart and look out for other people. Yet, they are aware that their nature attracts narcissists, toxic people, and psychopaths. However, they can learn how to keep such people away in a smart and discrete manner.
On the other hand, narcissists have low self-esteem but they hide it well. They mask their insecurities by bullying an empath. So, the relationship between an empath and a narcissist becomes one way a source of stress and imbalance. The narcissist knows how to break an empath. But an empath can fight back after recognizing this passive-aggressive behavior.
Upon realizing this, an empath can dominate a narcissist and call upon a confrontation. They have a unique ability to turn the tables around and clearly state who is in charge. Because of this, a narcissist’s ego that gives them a delusional power comes under threat.
As a narcissist’s goal is to drain other people’s energy, this is fought back by an empath who can turn cold and destroy their ego. Such an experience is highly transformational for an empath who can react to a narcissist’s inappropriate behavior by powerful silence and good comebacks. A narcissist’s abusing behavior and statements are actually projections of their own self-perception. They can easily play the victim and emotionally manipulate empaths. However, an empath can take the lead and destroy the narcissist by using their people skills and setting boundaries.
How to spot a narcissist
A Narcissist puts down other people to feel good about themselves. They use their people skills and engage in a passive-aggressive communication style to point out the mistakes and imperfections of others on a regular basis but in a subtle manner.
They do this too to make someone feel helpless and imperfect. Doing so helps them lessen the impact of their own faults. This is a way they avoid facing their own imperfections and maintain a sense of dominance over other people. Furthermore, they emotionally manipulate others when they withdraw from them. They become the victim and make the other person the aggressor through their words.
An empath can use their empathy as a superpower. They can do this by going in the opposite direction of their conditioning i.e. instead of understanding other people’s pain and helping them, they can try to reflect and give themselves space. Try to understand their own pain and take care of themselves instead of others
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An empath can destroy a narcissist. However, it is challenging and takes active effort on part of an empath to break the vicious and dysfunctional cycle of the...
As an empath I feel everything. When my family are so negative its super draining. I mean really just shut tf up you all are so annoying bickering....
I think you're missing the point about being emphatic towards someone. I agree to a certain point that empaths have a superpower, however people tend to realize this and empaths fall from what I call "being nice" because that's what empaths are... nice people. Sometimes they get hurt and they're likely to be insecure about themselves because they do not realize at the moment their worth and this when narc people get in:
They do feed from the empath and it's from their vulnerability and their insecurities. Narc people may have flaws but they do not realize it, their week point is actually a ticking bomb. They use manipulatives ways to make the empath stay with them and they isolate the empath from their surrounding (friends and family) turning the narc their only one they can go to if things go bad. The narc will use and unfortunately in some cases, will succeed into turning their empath partner into a submissive pet. Empaths do not seek power but they do try to help people in any way they can and are able to. Narc will exploit that by acting in a way an empath won't be able to say no.Reply