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Hi, I would really appreciate advice, especially from someone with DID. Thank you for taking time to read this!!
I have a friend who I love very much. He is very sweet and a fun person. He recently was diagnosed with DID and has been more open with me and his close friends about it and his alters. I'm very supportive of him and I communicate well with him, but I am just concerned. What exactly do I do if someone else fronts while I'm hanging out with him? I haven't hung out with him for long periods of time yet as we aren't EXTREMELY close, so I haven't had much of a chance to adapt to his different alters. I don't know exactly what he would want me to do either, as I know everyone has their individual ways of dealing with things. We just haven't discussed that. We are going to be hanging out together soon, and I just want to be confident in myself. I won't know what to do if someone I don't know and who doesn't know me fronts and wonders why they are in my house! I'm just kind of nervous, but I'm willing to figure everything out with him. I know it will take some time, but does anyone have some advice for me? Of course I will talk to his alters as I would anyone else, I'm just worried it might start a panic or something if one of them doesn't know who I am or where they are?? Idk!! I'm not sure if his DID is so intense that he has completely separate memories and won't realize why he's where he's at?? I think I just have a lot of questions I should discuss and work out with him!! I just don't want to mess anything up D: Any advice??? Thank you again, anyone reading.
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Definitely discuss it with him. The alters might know about you, since some people with DID are able to communicate with their alters through a few different ways, or they may not have full amnesia between each other. They may also know you if they've ever co-fronted with your friend while with you. If an alter switches out while you guys are together and they're confused, let them know that you're friends with the host, and you both were planning to hang out today and that's why they're there. Get to know them so that they can feel a bit more comfortable, or be prepared for them to want to leave or be alone for a minute to get their bearings. Honestly, the best thing to do is just stay calm and talk to them about it. Suit their needs (within your own comfort). I hope it'll go alright, try not to stress too much about it if you can, it'll likely be okay.
ReplyWow thank you so much!! Your comment really really helped me feel a lot more confident. I'll definitely be taking your advice. Thank you so much!!!! :D
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