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I"ve been in love twice in my life and I know I was in love with them because looking back at those relationships retrospectively they"re the ones that I can honestly I loved them whereas other girlfriends I feel nothing towards. I"m in love again (and I"m sure of it because I get the same feeling with her as I did with them) but this time it"s vastly different. I"ve never been able to get to know her intimately as I would like but we always have fun talking and being together.
The catch is, she"s my teacher. I go to a very strict school where teachers are teachers; not your friends. However, with her, my relationship is different. When we chat, it"s a level playing field, we"re two friends who can have a laugh and I can get away with swearing etc in front of her and she swears in front of me (something that never happens at my school). I"m in love with her. They say love is blind and to me she can do no wrong.
My plan was always to ask her to get coffee with me on my final day of school (in about a year"s time) however; today I found out that she"s leaving this year. I haven"t yet had a chance to talk to her about why she"s going or where she"s going but what I do know, is that I have nine school days in which to make a decision about what I do. If I do nothing then we both leave "happy", friendship intact with plenty of good memories and nothing awkward. However; I will spend many nights wishing I"d been brave enough to ask her about "us". But if I do do something then it could potentially ruin that which we have, which I would not forgive myself for. But, if it works, I could potentially be the happiest person in the world. I just want to be with her constantly and it pains me to think that I probably will never get to be with her.
So my question is: what should I do? Should I go for it and ask her to meet just as friends (or maybe more depending on her reaction) outside of school? Should I wait until I leave school to add her on social media? Or should I just be thankful for meeting her and not tell her how I truly feel, keeping what we have but killing me a little on the inside?
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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First of all, some of this is contingent on the age difference. If you're about to be a senior then I assume you're 17, probably turning 18 this year. Unless she's a very young teacher its not a good situation regardless of where she's teaching.Some things to consider....If you really care about her, don't say anything to her until the Fall after you've graduated. I'm assuming that'll be the Fall of 2017. In most states it's against professional practices for a teacher to have a romantic relationship with a former student until the Fall after they graduate. That's to protect students from predators. Sadly, there are still some out there in the world of teaching. Also, some time apart will give you a chance to clear your head. Maybe this is a proximity infatuation thing. Be patient. Be sure. Because if you reveal your feelings and she reciprocates them, and something happens romantically, it will end her career. Not just a blemish......she will be done. Finished. Not a teacher. Unhirable. That's a 30 year career down the toilet for what? So if you really care for her, demonstrate that love my keeping your mouth closed. Hell, if she approaches you, lie and deny. Let her go so she can have this career she's worked for for many years.Then, in a year or more, revisit. I'm not an idiot. Sometimes people meet in odd ways. And if she's six or seven years older than you when you're in your thirties or forties it won't matter. Just don't do something that could ruin he life to validate your feelings. That isn't love. That's selfish.
Replystay as far away as possible. I was in the same situation for almost a year and I forced myself to stay as far away from him as possible and it's getting easier to tolerate and I have found someone else to love.
ReplyOk, thank you. I know it's illegal to have a student/teacher relationship and she is only 6 or 7 years older than me but I'll feel awful if I can't speak to her for a year after she leaves. Who knows what might happen in that year? I'm planning on talking to her after school on Tuesday to try and figure out where we stand without giving away obviously my feelings. If she does reciprocate then I'm sure we'll find a solution but I'm not planning on being blunt or blatant with her. If I get the feeling it's going the way that it probably should for the best, I won't try anything else until next autumn.The advice is greatly appreciated and has helped massively! Thank you very much.
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