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they say that there are some things
that are better to keep a secret,
because “other people don’t need to know”,
like leaving out the “girl” part of the word “girlfriend”,
like sitting in silence when people are screaming at your existence,
because you’ve learn that your opinion doesn’t matter,
and you don’t know right from wrong,
like not mentioning a part of yourself to certain people,
because if you do,
they’ll look at you with a different set of eyes,
and they’ll never call again.
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short poem/vent thing about homophobia. i've never experienced blatant homophobia from close family, but i've definitely experienced it in a more passive way. but it still hurts, if not even more, because i feel so powerless. there are certain relatives that i know would never accept me, so it's better to keep quiet. especially my grandparents, they would look at me differently, if not stop talking to me all together. they're old, so i'd rather not tell them, because i want to spend whatever years we have together. it hurts so much, i just want to feel safe.
it's not like i lie to everyone, i've never formally come out, but i've causally mentioned the fact that i like boys and girls multiple times. people still choose to ignore that part of me. they always try to hide or diminish it for me.
i've become so used to just spectating, not saying a word. simply being a bystander when relatives have homophobic conversations. i've tried to say something, but they never listen.
the worst part is, i love these people. they are my family. i don't want to lose them. some of my most homophobic relatives are still people i love, and i hope they will still love me back if they one day find out.
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I'm a lesbian and I could care less about what people think of me.
ReplyTypically parents love their children unconditionally.. and often same goes for the love between siblings. Tell them you are the way you are because you were born that way; if they think it's a choice, just say : "if it's a choice - can you choose to be gay, same as me...if you love me?" This will make them realize that not even for love can they "choose" to be gay/lesbian/bi... and hopefully they'll understand that it's not a choice, it's the way you're born. Best of luck.
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