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I (17F) started dating my boyfriend (21M) about four weeks ago, and we were talking for about a week. During that week I kept seeing a girl‘s name come up on his phone, we’ll call her Alexis. I didn’t think much of it because my boyfriend has a lot of friends that are girls but I’m a classic Overthinker so I looked into it and found her social media. All of it was private so I couldn’t do much but think about it going on in the future. Once we started dating I stopped seeing her name pop up on his phone as much, but it was still in the back of my mind. This morning I came to his house, and he went outside to take a phone call. This is very unusual for him as he usually answers the phone when I’m there. I watched him on the phone and he was like he was arguing with someone . I got bored of watching so I went back into his room and hopped on my phone and went onto TikTok to see that Alexis had followed me. I followed her back knowing what was about to happen, and I went outside to ask my boyfriend what he was doing. The second I came outside he hung up the phone, and followed me back inside. We both sat in his room in silence for a bit, and I got a notification that Alexis had DMd me on Tiktok. I opened it to a message saying “Just letting you know your boyfriend has been cheating on you since March 7th, I have pictures if you want them.” Of course I asked her for the pictures, and she sent them to me. Once i read the messages between them I immediately ran to the bathroom and started crying. Once I gathered my thoughts I went back to his room and started yelling at him, and without even saying a word he started apologizing. I didn’t want to hear it so I got all my things and ran out to my car, with him chasing me. He started to explain himself. First, I guess I should tell you what the texts said. They said:
“GOOD AFTERNOON MISS ALEXIS
hiyaaa
Happy Mother’s day
Mommy
I just got home
And I love you too
Stinker
What’s the plan for today”
Then in another page of screenshots, he said this (18+)
“Bruh you are not prepared for shower sesh I will make you c*m 2-4 times
You’re f*cking done”
These texts were on sunday, just four days ago. We had been dating for three weeks at this point, and he had just dropped me off at home.
His explanation to me was this:
They started talking the same time we did, and she lives in Canada (we live in the US). All of it was just talk and he was never gonna do anything with her. He was planning on cutting it off with her very soon but hadn’t yet because he didn’t want to crush her. He also didn’t tell me because he didn’t want to crush me. He says he loves me and wants a life and children with me. He’s sworn to me up and down he’ll never do it again and will give me full access to his phone any time I want it. He’s also repeatedly apologized to me because he would never want to hurt me, and would do anything for me, and anything to make it up to me.
I told him I’d give him one more chance, but the more time I’ve spent with him today the more I’m growing wary of that decision. A large part of me sympathizes with him because when we started talking, I was also talking to someone else and got into a relationship with them. But the difference is, I cut it off immediately after things got serious with my current boyfriend. I can see that he was in a bad situation, but at the same time he still cheated on me. Alexis had fully believed they were in a committed relationship and so did I. To prove it to me, he even texted her saying he never loved her, and he loves me and wants a life with me. He was even crying apologizing to me. I just don’t know what to do. I love him, I really do, but I don’t trust him anymore, and I don’t want to spend the rest of my life worrying about him cheating on me. The other part of me thinks I’ll get past it and everything will be great. My head is just foggy right now and I would really appreciate some outsiders unbiased opinions. Thank you if you read this, it’s more appreciated than you realize.
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