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We have a baby on the way, i just bought a secondhand car worth $3,000 plus repairs, and we talked about splitting it. he doesn't want to look for a higher salary because he doesn't feel like going through applying again. His salary is just $500... He spends a lot by buying signature clothes and everytime i talk him into saving, he says: look for a rich guy. If you don't accept me for who I am you're free to leave... I just need someone who's trying to save FOR US... I think im gonna go broke if this continues on. Im the only one saving in the relationship...
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Hmmm..If he isn't going to help, then he is a burden to you both. Yes? Is it wrong to want to be with someone who has goals and ambitions? Don't you have them?
You should have a positive role model for your child. Someone who is strong and shows their love by helping to support his/her family the best way he/she can. Is that him?
Is he able bodied? Does he have mental or physical defects that would prevent him from protecting you both?
If not and is he choosing to be a stick in the mud, is the plan then to be stuck there with him?
ReplyHe is immature and selfish. He doesn't even want you to stay so that he can be a dad to his baby. Some people can't save no matter how many times you tell them and your husband can't see any point in saving. The more you tell or ask him to get another job he won't. and the more you ask him to save he won't. It is up to you as to whether you stay with him or not.
ReplyI would put a question a bit differently. It sounds strange to me that he is fine with that, if so then maybe he is right, you should find someone else who has higher priority to take care of loved ones instead of signature clothes. That seems to me that he is more likely looking for someone else or want to appear as one who is not and that is a guy who earns more than he does while his appearence is more important than you two.
I think you can try to propose that you can try to help him with CV etc.. but anyway it does not sounds healthy
Good luck
ReplyThere is being a rich guy, and there is just being an adult with normal, everyday financial responsibilities.
If you're sharing a household, a baby, a life together... You need to make that work out on a practical level, to keep the lights on and avoid running into debt. If he's not making good spending decisions when it comes to you and the household, he's not likely to spend wisely when it comes to his kid, either. He's not planning for any kind of future, and therefore you should assume that there isn't one. Not with this guy.
If he's not able to have a sensible conversation about money... well, I think you might have to accept his ultimatum and leave.
Work out what your finances would be like as a single-parent household, and make your life plans according to that information. Do NOT go broke or get into debt for this man. Keep saving your money in a place he doesn't have access to, and use it to get to a place of your own. I promise it will be cheaper in terms of your sanity in the long run.
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