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Hi,
I have a relationship with my best friend. We have known eachother for over 10 years and have been best friends for 6 years. Our relationship has reached the two-year mark already and our wedding is planned in the upcoming months.
I don't know if it is normal or not, but my fiancee and I have been struggling the past few weeks. We've been butting heads more often than ever. Having fights more often.
Even till the point that either she or I or even both of us end up in tears.
We always stay respectful to eachother and never call eachother names, but the arguments get pretty intense.
It hurts me very much, because if I'm honest I wanted this to be something very different. She had been my friend for over 5 years at the time. We've known eachother pretty well. And yes, I'm aware that a romantic relationship is different from a platonic one, but I'm wondering why the difference is like night and day.
I feel like she has changed so much over these past two years. How she talks to me, how she responds to the things I say or would like. Her responses went from loving and caring to almost being despiseful and hostile. It might be just me or how I think, but my view of a relationship is that both partners respect eachother and do their best to make the relationship work.
And I just don't feel that's the case.
I know she cares about me and loves me too. But I do notice that is hasn't been the same like it was in the beginning. I know the butterflies fade, but how you support your partner shouldn't deteriorate right?
Our wedding is around the corner, but I don't really sense joy from her when we talk about it. Almost as if she doesn't want to do it.
I've known her to be a girl to always express her joy. She always hides her sadness and grief, but the joy is something she was never shy of showing.
How come she isn't joyful when it's about her own wedding?
When we started talking about a relationship I told her that there we no strings attached. She was free to take up my offer and have the relationship with me. I made sure it was her decision and there was no pressure there to do it.
The same goes for when I proposed to her.
She said yes.
I make a real effort to not pressure her into things and make her find her own opinions and decisions.
And that's why I don't understand how we've arrived at this place in our relationship.
Our wedding is around the corner and it would literally shatter my heart if it isn't going to happen. I'm just in need for a different perspective. Maybe I see things wrong. Or maybe this whole thing is showing signs that it won't last.
I just don't know anymore.
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hey there.. it's been 2 months since you posted this.
I just want to tell you, her personality is very similar to mine. maybe I can answer why she changed like that, from my perspective, she's indeed love you. that's why he accepted your proposal. but in the same point she wasn't ready for being a wife or something like that. or maybe she have some difficulties or struggling about something that she won't share with you.
just ask her, is there something she need or something she want to do. if she mad about something, just try to calm her down. as much as you can, keep your head calm too, don't get mad. fire with fire will burn everything down. if you love her, keep her still in your arms. don't let her go.
I wish everything will be alright.
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