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I'm five years younger to my brother,he is 31.He works for an IT firm,and has Work from home right now.
So there are certain things that annoy me about him.
I try telling him in a nice way, but then he acts dumb,that's when I lose my cool.
He doesn't wash his plates, after dinner, i asked him to do it,just his plate, he said "If I do this,what will mom do".I ask him to wash his plate,only so that mom doesn't have a lot to do.I too help mom with washing dishes.
He doesn't wash his own undergarments, sneezes without covering his nose.
Keeps scratching his bum,dosent wash his hand later.
Even if we tell him,he doesn't care.
While having food he doesn't care,if others have,if he likes it , he'll eat it.
I'm not understanding as to why he acts this way.
Tells about me to mom, about mom to me.
If he has something against dad insted of talking about it to Dad ,he tells me again and again and again and instigates me against Dad.
He Doesn't keep things organized.
Doesn't maintain healthy diet.
Most of the time mom,dad or me, take food to his room,even fill water,coz sometimes unless given to him he won't get up, go to the kitchen and have it.
He'll never make coffee for himself,will wait for one of us to make it for him.
If if talk something important,he gives a silly or stupid reply. Which pisses off mom and me.
Not sure if he is acting to be innocent or is really stupid or absent minded.
These things are effecting my mental health, I'm tired of being responsible, I'm not able to concentrate on my career.
Jobless from 5 years after graduation.
I just want to make my life better now.
I really want to help him, I don't know if it's okay to be that way.
Please share your opinions.
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My brother is like this only he’s 19 and has anger issues too. I think he’s just sad? Traumatised? My brother is. When we were little our mother was alcoholic and drug addict, she sometimes beat us( she loves us, it was bad times) and yelled at us every day. We lived with our grandparents and mother in one apartment while the two of us couldn’t go into other rooms except the ones we lived with our mother. Our grandparents didn’t like us, because of mom. Our father was and still is an addict. I found my mom having sex with different guys ( often, I’m not sure if my brother did), I saw her with cut wrists and choking on vomit, yelling at me she’ll kill me. I’m not sure what my brother saw but he used to be sweet, now he’s total jerk and throw chairs at me, beated me. I personally think it has something to do with past try looking to it :) maybe it’s not and he’s just spoiled. It’s never too late for a change. I wish you good luck
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ReplyMaturing is letting things go that others do that bothers you. Maturing is trying to understand instead of hating. Maturing is let people be instead of being upset that you cant control them. Your brother is human. He is behaving like humans do no matter how you disagree about how humans should perform. Everyone is different. From what I can tell your brother is depressed. He feels like crap. Might be hating his life. Dont know his life story but things arent going well in his noggin.
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ReplyHe is a lazy slob and you will do best to ignore him.
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ReplyI can say it's because of his poor teachings from his childhood. No-one has given him responsibilities because you all are there to help him always.
So he never learnt basic life skills.
You do his regular household chores that you should give up by saying it's not our duty .
You should focus on your career. Give up on his work by saying you don't have enough time. You should teach him he's not king of the house .
He's just a member who has to perform his own duties.
Stop making coffee for him.Ask him to make coffee to you instead .
Don't wash his dirty clothes and don't let your mother wash them. He's an adult he should understand it's his duty not his mother's.
And eat his food to sometime just to show him that is how he do and never think about anyone .
You all need to be strict.
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ReplyYeah, he's selfish, rude, unhygienic and self-entitled. I lived with a fully grown adult like this when I was at uni, and it was Not Cute.
You only get to have an opinion when it directly affects you, and the rest of the household, though. Let's break this down into stuff that is your business, and what is not.
None of your business:
His unhealthy diet - He is an adult, making his own food choices.
Keeping things disorganised - if it's in his room, it's not for you to decide what's untidy.
Things you can put a stop to by ignoring:
The way he complains to you about other members of the household. - You don't have to listen to that. Just say that you are not willing to listen to him complain about your parents and leave the room.
Things you and your parents should reasonably enforce as a shared responsibility in the household:
Everyone has a turn at washing the dishes
Everyone does their own laundry
Keep the shared spaces clean and tidy
Food is labelled or stored on shelves that belong to one person - no stealing food
Meal times and snacks to be shared or taken in the kitchen or dining room - no exceptions.
Unless your parents are going to enforce expectations of behaviour as a condition of living under their roof, you're unlikely to see a change, but you should at least have one conversation where you all try to reach an agreement on how you approach chores, etc.
It's really not up to you to fix your brother. Although one disgusted response to his bum-scratching habit should have put a stop to it the first time. Like you say, he just doesn't care.
If he wants to live like a baboon, you are not your brother's (zoo)keeper. Quit exhausiting your mental energy on the slob, and aggressively focus on your own life. Maybe get involved in some hobbies that take you out of the house for a few days a week? Your project should be working towards a job and being able to rent your own place - not trying to help this git - he's clearly happy enough as he is, because he doesn't want to change anything.
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