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I have a huge issue with myself lately, like, my self esteem is really low and I've gotten so insecure and anxious about anything that I just stay at home although I really want to meet with friends and go out, but I just don't want to have the feeling that I'm annoying someone. These last days I had the urge and wanted to ask a colleague if we could go out somewhere and just do anything, but I couldn't do it and bring myself to ask her cause I know i'm not the best at being social and I don't want it to be awkward (I also wouldn't know where to go because I don't go out much and I know nothing nearby)
I just want to be outside and not see my house for some hours in which i feel very trapped because I have literally no one to talk to, my sister doesn't want to go out with me, she prefers to go with some random dudes instead and i don't have friends, only this one colleague from work that I sometimes talk to and get along quite well with..
I always need to have the feeling of control in some cases and going out or asking someone to meet somewhere is not something i can do easily and that's stopping me from being able to just have fun... I also noticed that this feeling leads to me having issues with eating since some time now because i notice that when I control how much I eat, I can also control my weight and this could help me with my self esteem (I know, I also already noticed that this is naive thinking and this is not what's going to solve my issues) .. I'm not stupid and I do know that this can lead to eating disorders but it frustrates me so much I can't put it into words and I'm not able to stop neither..
I feel lonely because I have no one to talk to, but if I do talk to someone, usually push them away without noticing because I'm horrible at socializing...
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It's good that you clearly understand the situation. Well, we usually feel lonely because we do not love ourselves. If you do not love yourself, other people won't make you happy. I would advise you to make yourself busy first without seeking for others. Go outside alone. Don't ask anyone. Try to get on well with yourself first. The best way ,of course, is to have a therapy.
ReplyIt seems like you do get along with your co-worker, so that is someone you can look more into getting to know more. Are there any hobbies that you like doing? It might help you find a club where you're from that you could join to find people with similar interests. It sounds like to me you and your sister aren't that close, but maybe you could try "popcorn" conversations, that is to say a little here and there to your sister and gradually build a rapport with her.
As far as your eating habits, as someone else said, if you don't love yourself you might try to find love outside. You might need to find a way to make it harder for yourself to be overcontrolling over what you eat. Try something new every once in a while and try to deal with feelings of guilt, shame, or avoidance as they come.
You may not be where you want to be right now, but with some time and effort you can make it. Much love <3
ReplyFirst of all I'm sorry, I won't be able to give you any advice cause I'm going through all of those things too(I was surprised I haven't related to anyone like this before),I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone.
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