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So I am talking to this guy named xyz he is in my college we are first year students and he asked me out before the Holidays and I asked for sometime so he gave me full holidays to think over and now it's coming to an end so I have no answer yet
Like I do kind of like him but I am not sure as it will be my first relation (if it happens) so I am scared
I don't know what to do sometimes I want to say yes sometimes no
I want help I don't know what my exact feelings are for him
I do like talking to him everyday I kind of miss him sometimes
But then I want to study without any distractions
And he is a huge disturbance as even before dating I think of him all the time
I am too scared to admit I like him
But at the same time I want him
But when studies come in between I want to forget him
Godddd i am confused
Pls helppp
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From your story, it sounds like you asked this guy for some time to think about going on a date and now some time has passed and you're not sure if you do, or do not, wish to date him. From the rest of your story, it sounds like you have conflicting feelings for him.
I think you should say "yes" and, at the very least, go out with him once. Have a date and see how things go. If all goes well, you could have another date and just take it one step at a time. On the dates, you have time to get to know each other a little better. That's what dating is all about and, in this, you'll start to determine if this is a person you really like or not.
For instances where you need him to not be around, like when you want to study alone, you could simply tell him that. "Hey, I have to study this afternoon so we can't hang out but I am free on Friday." for example. I'm sure he won't mind that. Dating doesn't mean that you have to spend every waking minute with one another.
If you go on a few dates and you find that you probably aren't compatible with this person, then you can call the whole thing off. But...at least you would have tried, yes?
Good Luck!
ReplyThankyou so much
ReplyHey it seems like you’ve received some great advice so far! I just wanted to add on and say to trust your intuition throughout the whole process.
In the past, when I’ve made decisions as such I’ve realized that if I’m excited to see someone, it won’t take me long to decide that I want to go out with them. (And I can be pretty indecisive!) I think the right person will make you feel that way. You will feel like your making time to see them and look forward to it.
Take it slow and don’t rush your first relationship.
Like the other person said if you feel it’s right, try it out. Get to know them and see if you’re compatible. If you’re not, then you learned about yourself along the way and the things you value in a potential partnership.
ReplyI think you should be yourself and just tell him how you feel! you can date people and focus on school work at the same time. I've done it before! you got this!
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