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My head feels like it’s spinning all the time and my emotions are up and down. I like this guy, he a little bigger than I’ve been with but he’s cute and sweet and I like him. But he did something and my body is going into flight mode and I’m not sure why I’m taking it so much to heart. He has me to do something sexual and I didn’t want to, he repeatedly asked me even though I said no. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with it and he apologized but the thing that sucked the most was when I said no he said it was because he was fat and ugly. My friend said it was a form of sexual harassment but I’m not sure, it was over text and he was out with his friends at a bar. Why am I taking this so much to heart yo the point I never want to see him again? He apologized why can’t I just give him the benefit of the doubt and trust he was just joking. My chest hurts thinking about it :(
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It can lead to a form of rape sweetie. I had this experience in my first relationship, if they keep pressuring you until you say yes it's still assault. Please trust your gut and keep away, he could become dangerous. It's easy to fall for things when we are brought up around similar environments but no means no in the end. If you aren't comfortable that's what's absolutely essential to keep in mind. Don't give in, even tell him what he's doing is wrong. Some guys truly don't know that they are messing up that badly. Don't if you don't wish but please do keep away from him for your safety.
ReplyAs a guy, if he wants you to do 'that thing' more than he wants you to be happy, then he is only in for what he can get out of it.
If you are attracted to him, and you can be afectionate without crossing your boundries, he shuld know it isn't because of his looks.
ReplyWas he joking because it doesn't sound like a joke if he finished by saying you don't want to coz he's fat and ugly. The fact that he was out with friends is prob even worse so I understand how you feel. You feel used I'd say and objectified, harassed and pressured. A partner should never make you feel that way.
I was once with a guy for 3 months and he encouraged me and ultimately pressured me into doing something I wasn't comfortable with. I was upset after and told him so. He made out like it wasn't a big deal, he didn't realise etc and ended up making me feel so guilty that I felt really uncomfortable. I stayed with him for 4 years but always remember that that was the day I should've left because it showed me the emotional games and lack of empathy that would shape our relationship.
So my advice is to trust your gut feeling and run. ❤️
Replyplease be safe and always trust your guts.. keep self first ... you are important and ur feeling are important to ... i don't think i should give you this advise but i cant stop myself .. he trying to play with ur emotions and want you to feel guilty so u feel emotional pressure and make u do something u don't want ... so always put self first and being selfish ( selflove) is not sin ..... :)
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