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Self-esteem issue need advice

1 week ago · 4 · Advice, +1


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When I was 10-13 I had an obsession with victoria secret models. It created for me huge self-esteem issues where I looked in the mirror and could not see myself as beautiful or skinny (side note I was "skinny" but I could not see that. Everyday I would do 30+ minutes of cardio/hitt workouts on yt hoping to loose weight. At age 13 I weighed 86lbs and was all skin and bone. I also did not eat enough either and would count how many calories I consumed. Now I am a couple years older and in college and regret what I did to my body. I've done some weightlifting to grow some muscles because like I mentioned I my bones were highly visible. I stunted my growth so I never grew at all and my body looks the same as I did when I was 12/13 (I've gained some weight and now weight around 110lbs) but I still carry some self-esteem issues. I no longer have a huge obsession with being "skinny" but I'm more focused on my breasts now because they never grew. I do not feel feminine like I imagine I should and I compare myself to other girls. I do not fit into any bras at all (not even the smallest size stores sell). I do not want to do surgery but I deeply hate the fact my upper body looks like that of a mans. I still do exercise but I've switched over to pilates/yoga so I do not know if that is further affecting me. I don't think there is anyway of enlarging them without surgery so I have no hope. I want to accept what I have but I have so much difficulty accepting.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 week ago

    Have breast surgery if it will make you feel better. Or don't compare yourself to others. Forget about how you look and compare yourself to how you were yesterday so that you can go ahead as a better person.

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  • TeenAnonymousWriter · 1 week ago

    There are millions of people who feel the same as you, I know people who are in the exact same situation as you, I don't know if it started the same way but they can't even fit into size AA and that's totally fine and normal, everyone is different. Try to not think of it as a disadvantage but an advantage, you can do so

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  • Unknown420 · 3 days ago

    Okay so how to get your breast to grow is milk, like a lot of milk. Milk might help your bones as well. You should still do that exercise you are doing, you should eat more foods that have high fat. Like meat, including beef, pork, chicken, and turkey.

    fish, such as salmon, tuna, herring, and cod.

    cheese.

    butter.

    avocado.

    oils, such as olive, coconut, flaxseed, and avocado oil.

    nuts, such as peanuts, almonds, walnuts, and cashews.

    seeds such as sunflower, chia, and flax.

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  • Novni Guest · 1 day ago

    My guess is you will never be able to accept your body, until you fix your mind. Your body is not the problem, your perception of it is where your problem lies. Stop obsessing, trust me...You could have surgery to enlarge your breasts but you would simply find another area to obsess over. Your thinking is the problem, not your body.

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