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I have an online stalker and it's creepy and is causing me stress. It's not as bad as it could be but it's upsetting and not something I thought would happen to me.
Two years ago, I had a one night stand with a college guy I picked up at a nightclub. It was nearing closing time and he came up to me and asked my name. Before that, we hadn't talked at all. Because it was so loud, he asked if I wanted to step outside on the club deck to talk, where it was quieter. I said sure. Because I hadn't initially planned on going home with him, I was full of witty but respectful turn-downs. He asked for my snap but I continued to turn him down--there was only one reason he wanted my snap and it wasn't to talk about the weather. That, and he was 22 and I was 35. I worked the age difference into my banter but he thought it was exciting. At closing, I decided that he was entertaining enough to go home with. We went back to his college apartment. I made it clear that this would be a one time thing, no strings attached. He was fine with that. At the end of the night, he asked for my snap again and I accepted with the secret intention of blocking him once I got home. There was no reason to keep in contact since a relationship was laughable and out of the question given our ages. We both knew it was an older woman/college guy thing and nothing more.
Because it was late, I had forgotten about the snap blocking until he sent me a message a few days later asking if I wanted to hook up again. Without responding, I unfriended him. I truly did not have any desire to pursue contact and he knew the deal before we hooked up. Leave it alone, dude. Time to move on.
Unfortunately, he didn't.
When he sent me another friend request, I declined and blocked him thinking that would get the message across. It seemed to work until a few months later, when he found my Facebook profile and sent me a request there. I was horrified because I had no idea how he found me. That's when I realized my display name on snap contained my first and last name.
Again, without responding, I deleted the request and blocked him. I was unnerved that so much time had passed and he still tried to reach out. It bothered me that he was still thinking of me after months of blocking him on snap. I got a weird feeling in my stomach. Luckily, my profile is private (as are the rest of my social media accounts because of weirdos). I went over to Instagram and blocked him there as a preventative measure for possible contact. I felt better after blocking him but the weird feeling took a long time to go away.
Two years have passed and I had forgotten about him until I received an Instagram friend request from: you guessed it. He had opened another Instagram page under him full name.
SERIOUSLY DUDE WHAT THE FUCK
I was so shaken up. TWO YEARS. Like, holy shit, dude, IT'S BEEN TWO YEARS. I haven't said a word to this guy after I left his apartment that night. I have blocked him on every platform that I have and this shithead is still trying to get ahold of me. Like, please explain to me why this dude will π notπ take π a π hint.
My emotion tells me to send him a message explaining that I don't wish to communicate or be friends on social media. I do not want to invite this stranger into my online life where pictures of my family, pets, vacations, home, etc are. I care about my privacy and take it seriously. I am not a friend collector. However, given the strange persistence, I realize that I'm not dealing with a stable person. Sometimes, men look for an excuse to become angry at women or have other motives as to why they're trying to pry.
TWO YEARS and he still remembers my first and last name.
TWO YEARS and he's still thinking of me.
TWO YEARS and he's still creating accounts to seek me out even though I have changed my user names, profile pictures (they are now flowers instead of my face), and have switched my snap display name to my first name only with no additional personal info.
Dude. I'm so freaked out.
I never thought something simple like that would bother me so much. Like, why TF is this guy trying so hard for years?
I'm worried he's going to reach out to my friends or family or say something nasty. I'm thankful he hasn't sent me any messages but seriously, wtf?!
He looks deranged in his Instagram photo, too. There's something dark and off about him. He's not cute like he used to be. He's....angry in his photo. His eyes are dark.
Ugh, I'm so weirded out!!!!!
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